Dated wife in 2013, married in 2015. We had 2 kids together, bought a house. I was the worker, she was stay at home mom. Financial problems cause me a lot of problems and gave me a lot of anxiety/depression. Filed bankruptcy. Her spending habits did not change, we were still in a financial hole.

August 2022 we decided to call it. We agreed to 50/50 custody verbally like she had with he previous baby daddy. (1 kid) 2 weeks later living under same roof, she started sleeping w/ another guy. Late September we got into an argument about her having me watch the kids on her day to go party and neighbors called the cops. No legal issues, but I felt it was a trap and she intentionally set the situation up to try and get me in trouble. From that time I started recording every interaction we had. Early November she got her dream job making more then I ever had, and subsequently moved out a couple weeks later.

We sold our house in November and split the profits, roughly 15k a piece. From that point I moved into an apartment near by her rental house and near the kids school. We continued 50/50 custody, but neither of us filed. March I met a girl started dating. In May I told her about her, which became a sore subject due to her being younger.

Early august after a year of living off my finances and understanding my budget I decided to purchase a truck.

Early September she called me describing her financial situation and her being in trouble. This was the first time since the sale of the house she mentioned money problems to this extent. She had evidently fallen behind on her personal rent and needed 4800 dollars within a week. I did not have the finances to help her. Her parents initially refused but decided to help pay half. I offered what I could and stated I could take the kids for however long she needs to get her finances right if need be. She never directly asked me for any money, she just kept repeating she doesn’t know what to do and I did not really have an answer, she did it to herself like she had done to us while we were together.

9/27 we had a phone argument regarding kids extra caricature activities where I was admittedly an ass. I late that evening apologized but received no response.

9/29 she texted me that our youngest had some health concerns the day prior and that she had taken her to a doctor and a cps investigation had been started and someone would be contacting me. No more information.

I had only had my kids Monday and Tuesday that week and all we did was get picked up from daycare(her lifelong stay at home mom friend) feed them and then hang out for an hour before bed. I dropped them off Wednesday and there was no issues to my knowledge.

I have not done absolutely anything physical to the kids. I have not spanked any of our children in years. I don’t yell. I’m just absolutely lost as to what the investigation is about.

It is coming up on a week since the investigation has started. Wife has had 0 contact. I was advised it was best I not see or speak to the kids or her till investigation is concluded. I was also notified there is no protection order on the kids. But it would be appreciated if I remained no contact till it is concluded.

I have called cps for any information, but they state they can’t tell me anything until it is my turn to be interviewed. So cps won’t tell me anything. Wife won’t tell me anything. I am just in the dark. I am trying to mentally prepare for any accusations.. but the uncertainty is fucking killing me.

I also forgot to mention, my mom literally lived w me at my apartment and literally moved out last weekend (planned move date, coincidence this all happened right before she left, wife was aware she was moving out that weekend). So I have a live in witness to my conduct.

I’ve talked to a handful of lawyers, and I’m just being told bite my tongue and wait for the cps interview to know how to proceed.

Anyone w any experiences w cps?

False allegations?

Any advice? I’m obviously in a bad spot.

Obviously a lot of stuff is missing, any details you need for better advice I’m an open book