How to feel better while not lean/fit (yet)

The_Litz · 2018-02-08T10:48:49+00:00

Confidence is attractive.

Confidence with a six pack is irresistible.

Go out and mingle, mix and meet different people, not just chicks. Build your self esteem and confidence over time while working on your body.

You are running a big risk of waiting untill XYZ is in place before living your life like you want to. You risk standing at the station waiting, waiting , waiting....

TheMistakesWeMake · 2018-02-08T10:43:51+00:00

Read a book called 'The Slight Edge' - it explains the concept of steady progression towards any goal. Your self-esteem is impacted because you're comparing yourself now, to your ideal. Your ideal needs to exist as a goal/benchmark, but that doesn't mean your current form is unworthy of enjoying life.
Consider how every action you take is 'doing your future-self a favour'. i.e. you're not lifting for the man you are today, you're lifting for the man you'll be tomorrow. When tomorrow comes, you'll be grateful for having that discipline.
Believe your time will come. A year ago I was in the same position. I am now receiving loads more compliments about my looks, body, confidence than I would have anticipated back then. I KNEW that my time would come and didn't waver from that. Having that level of belief stopped me judging myself so harshly and freed me up to enjoy the ride.

trp_nofap_rewire2018 · 2018-02-08T12:13:42+00:00

I appreciate the replies, srsly. Gimme more food for thought!

Also, The Slight Edge was the first book I've read during this journey. Life changing concepts

cappadocianhawk · 2018-02-08T12:45:04+00:00

Just being able to consistently work towards your goal should make you feel more confident in life. Every time you gave up some inane crap to work on your mission is a victory. You need outcome independence, you might get that SMV increase at some point in the future, or you might not. What matters is you are working on it, you're still walking towards your goal. And as long as you do it, you are better than 80% of the people on the planet.

RedSkeller · 2018-02-08T17:41:45+00:00

You sound like you need to hang out with friends or do a mini road trip to break things up. All work and no play makes you a dull boy. Too much monk mode and you'll experience a burn out or just get bored with the routine. Make it exciting and do something fun, you don't have to avoid all social situations to be better, let yourself enjoy life along the way.

Gutss_ · 2018-02-08T22:20:22+00:00

First of all, it is normal to feel bad about your body, that is what drives people to change, feeling bad about themselves. You can't be a fat looking guy and be proud of your body, you will never change. Not liking your body will drive you to the gym in the coldest weathers. However you should love and admire your progress. Take pics, seeing your actual progress will boost your mood, self esteem and confidence. Picking up a hobby, making new friends and so on is always a great idea.

Title	How to feel better while not lean/fit (yet)
Author	trp_nofap_rewire2018
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	February 8, 2018 10:29 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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