How do I maintain frame when I’m not a well liked person?

Keith_Valentine · 2018-02-10T21:17:53+00:00

You should be more specific. You are trying really hard to act like getting hated on isn't bothering you, but it is or you wouldn't be posting. What kind of negative energy are you getting, like from other men?

So you're attractive and cocky, but awkward and introverted, and people don't know how to act around you? And other men resent you and dislike you, you act like you dgaf, but you actually do because you are a human and almost everyone cares about being liked on some level. Sound close or nah?

Whisper · 2018-02-11T01:01:09+00:00

You sound very anxious to convince me you don't give a shit. Which shows me how much you do.

You want our help, tell us real story.

superman127 · 2018-02-10T22:47:28+00:00

I used to be in the same situation. People think your life is easier because you're tall and good looking, when you aren't friendly with people (smile, eye contact) they think you're being stand offish or that you're better than them. It sucks because I know you want to keep to yourself but people will misinterpret it as you being stuck up. It doesn't take much effort to be friendly, I bet you'll notice an immediate change if you open up more.

360_no_scope_upvote · 2018-02-10T20:44:33+00:00

What makes you believe you're not a well liked person. Is it a feeling of inadequacy? Or is it you're looking for external sources of validation to drive your ego? Holding your frame is knowing all you need at the end of the day is yourself. You are the driving force in your own life. You participate the change you want to see. Realize the most important person in your life is you, and if others don't like you, that's their loss, not yours.

Ironic_Gangster · 2018-02-11T04:31:11+00:00

I used to have a similar problem Everyone: "I really don't like you." Me:"Good, I don't want you to like me."

Self awareness helps a shit-load. When you're around those who dislike you, exaggerate the traits that they don't like about you. Almost tryyyy to get a reaction from them. Turn their hatred into your own personal entertainment. When they are not around and when you're speaking with others, if those who hate you come up in conversation, refer to them as your best friend. 2X points if they are around and over hear you.

Eventually, I found those who liked me. They respected and understood the joke that I was pulling.

Title	How do I maintain frame when I’m not a well liked person?
Author	Kennigmatic
Upvotes	17
Comments	21
Date	February 10, 2018 8:19 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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