Hi,

looking for advice / view points.

I am torn, emotionally and mentally, bit of background I was in a pretty sexless relationshp for 20 years (that is a whole other sad story), thats on me but love is love I guess, I moved on after that ended and years later in another relationship and married.

My wife suggested her and her friend arranging a sex worker for me to experience it and also get some sexual experience which also kind of horrified me.

We have been married just over a year and my wife also raised the topic of years down the line her hypotheticallly seeing a sex worker once we have been together for some time if things got stale sexually.

She sees no problem with it as it is just a transaction for gratification, no emotional attachment, it felt like a gut punch, I have never considered seeing someone for sex it was never been on my radar, am I a prude, naive?

I am having trouble sleeping ,it is hurting me emotionally, I have talked to her about it but she said it is just hypothetical, say years down the line.

I am a very sensitive person, maybe unusually so for a guy, and I over think things all the time, man I am so lost and conflicted just now.