I have been redpilled for 2 yrs, but still feel like a beginner. I am in the getting my life together phase at 24 yrs old: lifting, staying healthy, saving money, etc.

At church, I gave a woman I like chocolate and made a comment, "Your voice is great, but you need singing lessons." I thought it was mean, and someone told me that made her feel bad. I thought whatever, but then I realized that women don't like assholes (which I tried to be), they like men who they think are assholes.

I am open to anything. I will do whichever gets the most upvotes by Tuesday night. Apologize, don't apologize, switch churches, etc.