From young, I’ve had many inklings about life and relationships that red pill research has confirmed.

That being said, I’ve been looking and can’t find anything on arguments. I was raised by a narcissist dad and an enabler mom and so arguments were basically the man who was supposed to love and protect me talking to me like someone out on the street. No respect for me as his daughter.

It’s even been violent.

That led me to actually vow to not argue. I know you can’t avoid conflict but I’d rather have a debate/discussion focused on a solution than the whole shouting match thing. even if it’s serious or urgent.

I don’t make snarky remarks, nag, or initiate verbal attacks 90 percent of the time, so when someone I resent (mostly family) does it to me I get extremely nasty, possibly verbally abusive when we argue. When I don’t resent them I’m really good at the whole “I’d rather talk this out” “can we take a breather” or “I’m leaving this conversation if you can’t be respectful/not yell, etc.” thing.

If that makes any sense.

What is your take on arguments? My idea is that it makes great sense to debate as a couple, even if it gets a bit elevated but generally arguing is unacceptable.

I feel like this also ties into shit-tests.