I was dating a super hot girl at 19 yrs old. She was 19 too . We didn't get physical as much but it was serious. We both were in a tier 1 city like mumbai. She loved me like really. I would be seen with her everywhere. In the gym,salon, cafes,roadside stalls etc. The insecurity was opposite at that time. It was me who was afraid "what if she obsess about me even after college ends ?" "What if I cannot earn enough money as per her father's standards?" "Why is she dating me when she has a tonne of hot male friends?" Etc. We both were middle class. Never let money become a problem. We broke off by 21 because she gave me many indirect hints her dad won't agree to let her go in a middle class household.

Today we both are 27. She is married to a relatively richer guy in Gujarat since 3 yrs. He is tall too,just doesn't have the facial symmetry like mine my ex loved. Heck no tall rich boy in Bombay would have accepted her because they have much better options from girls equal to their social strata. My ex and her husband travel to Switzerland,France , Greece on a regular basis.(something her dad couldn't have afforded at all) She proudly posts stories in her husband's merc as if it's her own car.

I will write about the red flags I ignored while dating her so that people here are aware for themselves . When we had started our friendship at 18 she would spend heck loads of time on insta, Truecaller,Facebook to stalk her male friends and friends filter out the rich ones.(she did that too subtly for a naive 18 y old me to realise). She had more male friends than female friends. The alibi she used for that is because she was in an all girls school so I never held that against her. When we were 3 months into our relationship she started treating me very differently when I returned from my hong kong vacations. After that she really tried ways to dig about my families business,assets and if i intended to join them or start something of my own. All over a period of few weeks so that I'm not alerted about anything.

For the 2 years out of our 3 year relationship she never told her parents about me. Legit all her friends were aware about this but not her family. Lastly she would hug and meet her male friends like it's the routine but when I spoke to any female remotely over 5 minutes she would make faces on me and not talk to me for days. Also she super weak academically always getting backlogs every semester. I never held that against her because i wasn't a good student too. But that could alert her intentions on leading life on somebody else's money. I hope this helps the men here.

I'm not even upset about anything but what triggers me is if a rich, tall guy was all she wanted... Why did she date me for those years and wait for her father to fetch her the type of man she wants? She could have controlled her hormones all through college right?