Many moons ago I Alpha Bunny was siping on pumpkin spice latte; for as many people know white chicks are my spirit animal. When suddenly I received a call from Sigma Wolfie. Sigma Wolfie and I go way back, I knew him before he accepted the Lord as his savior; back then we used to call him gay. All jokes aside he wanted to grab some burgers. But me being a dignified Alpha Bunny and feeling archaic said"Nay." Confused Sigma Wolfie asked why I rejected his offer to which I responded saying "grabbing burgers sounds lame, Invite me to something archaic and manly." Wolfie thought for a bit and said "brother let us eat slain bovine on top of rye bread." Being pleased at my brothers proposal I sallied forth. Once we had sate our hunger and our palette had been pleased I said "speaking in an archaic way is difficult, let us cease this at once." My friend concurred with me, for I am a practical Alpha Bunny. So what's up brother? said I. Wolfie said I have come to consult you on a matter most troublilng, I seek your wisdom. You see, I have a friend most dear whom is going thru much trouble. The church he attends has led him astray and now his life is in shambles. There are many things I would like to convey but know not the words to say.

You can stop with the ye olden days speak just tell me the story plainly from the start I said.

Alrlight bro, where to start? My friends name is Johnny and he is also a warrior like us. He is a really fit guy, handsome as hell and he plays a mean guitar. But his problem is that he is really blue pilled in his thinking, and this has caused him a lot of problems. He plays in a church's worship service and he gets a lot of tail thrown at him. On this issue Johnny was troubled for he is a man just like the rest of us. One day a church elder introduced him to a girl at church and told Johnny that he thinks they would be a good pair. The elder had known the girl and her family for sometime and pushed for the relationship. The woman had 2 kids in tow from previous relationships. Johnny was a little hesitant but the elder reminded him that Johnny was not always a child of God, but God took him as a son even though he was not. Besides that she was a good girl the elder said, she just dated irresponsible men. But I know you Johnny, you are an honorable godly man who can step up. Johnny being trusting decided to listen to the elder seeing it as an answer to his prayer. They dated for some time and Johnny felt elated. He spent time with the woman and grew attached to her kids. But problems arose. Talking to his elder at church Johnny was counseled and after assurances that all relationships have problems but that it should not stop them from moving forward. He got married and moved her into his house.

Yet trouble persisted, and Johnny found out the girl had a substance abuse problem and quite the promiscuous past. But Johnny tried to look past that and thought "What would Jesus do?" So he consulted his church elders and they told him that " if God could forgive her past, why cant you?" Johnny doubled down on his relationship and tried to make it work out somehow. Shortly there after she got pregnant and gave birth to a daughter. Johnny counted his blessing and the fact that he had experience raising her two sons. This would allow him to be a better father. One day Johnny's wife confessed that the reason she is being difficult is that she is worried about her kids. So she asked that Johnny adopt them just in case anything happened to her. Again Johnny hesitated and sought council.

The elders and pastors asked Johnny to consider what is in the best interest of the children. Besides you are practically their father already, why not make it official? Johnny said he had been having issues disciplining her two sons because they do not see him as their real father; also his wife gets angry when he tries to discipline her boys. You are not the step father cried the pastor, you are the father that stepped up! So Johnny manned up and adopted her children. And for a time there was peace in the home.

Yet no good deed goes unpunished, for besides the substance abuse issues she was quite the pig at home and became worse after the adoption. She spent much of his money on shopping, she stopped cooking and all attempts at cleaning. And worst yet she began sleeping with other men. Johnny still tried to be patient and understanding of his wife but when he became aware that she was sleeping around he decided to talk to his elders again. He was reminded of his Christian duty, and that infidelity should not necessarily lead to divorce. Besides that his marriage may actually come out stronger for it they said. Ever the man of duty Johnny tripled down. I will be a better man than my father he cried; and some more time passed.

But soon Johnny grew ill. He went to the hospital and after testing found out he had contracted an STD, the non curable kind. Dismayed he went to church and seeking wisdom and solace found none. " She gave me an STD" he confessed. Seeking the elder whom he trusted he begged him for guidance. " I have tried everything I can." But now my wife has emptied my bank account and filled for divorce." She wants to take away my daughter! "You told me she was a good girl, how could she do that to me?" After much talking Johnny learned that the elder who introduced him to the girl had known about her dark past including the fact she used to be a hooker. When Johnny asked why the elder introduced him to her if he had known all of this, the elder told him that her dating Johnny would be good for her, and he could provide a good environment for her and her kids.

Johnny was furious and asked why the elder had pushed them to marry in spite of knowing the problems he was facing , and why wont the elder or church council the girl or try and get her stop her behavior. The church elder told him that controlling your wife is your problem; besides that he said" no one forced you to marry her." How can you say that? he cried. She wants to divorce me but I have been faithful, shouldn't the church try and stop her from breaking her marriage, her family? The elder responded she is a sinner in this church just like the rest of us, but it is not our place to tell her what to do; she must do whatever is best for her.

Sometime has passed since then said Wolfie. Johnny has asked me for advice; he knows I am a man of faith and that my woman obeys me. And though I have stopped simping and know what to do in relationships, I am not sure how to explain it to Johnny. There's a lot of beliefs he has to unlearn before he can begin moving forward. Plus this whole experience has given him a crisis of faith. How would you address this issue brother?

The Alpha Bunny is stoic and many good things, but human he is. While listening to the story his blood boiled against the church, the elder, the woman, and the filthy lies Johnny had been fed. He pondered and prayed a bit before answering.

You must teach Johnny that what that church preaches and what the Bible says are not the same thing. You must show him what masculine leadership is. And teach him to put himself first. Because in all these problems Johnny faced he never asked himself " is this in my best interest?" He allowed other people to decide for him. He asked for permission to live his life, and they gave him permission to live a broken one. Teach him what Paul says " that all things are lawful to me, but not all things are expedient." It will take much practice but he can prevail.

Let this be a cautionary tale. Do not let others decide your life for you. Not everyone has your best interest at heart.

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