I know what is oneitis and i'm having oneitis towards my ex, whom we were together for 1.5 years two years back, then she blew me off for one of my friends, she broke up with me and then 2 months later was together with my friend (douche move from my friend, although he hasnt had absolutley no luck with any girl so i kinda understand why he went that way), i guess she was waiting to branch swing. We didnt talk for 6 months then. (they were together only for 2) and then she hit me up and asked me how i'm doing. Answering was a bad idea, because fast forward we ended up in each pants in the summer and both knew that she is going away to work abroad and catching feelings just before it is wrong. Basically I tried to arrange a LDR (thats a big mistake , never will do anything like it anymore after reading about trp).

It all boils down to why am i still thinking of her? Basically as time goes by, some periods i dont give a damn what she is doing or how is she, just dont care at all and some periods like today, i get the feeling of missing her a bit. How can i get it away? I'm trying to raise my SMV , been lifting for a bit this year, trying to get my diet on point. I'm quite socially awkward and dont have any prospects yet. Been trying tinder lately, but it seems that i only match with hb4-5s the most.

How to overcome this oneitis? I know that contacting her would make me look weak and still attached and invested. We have hurted each other alot too, she even said that i ruined her life back in november when she had been away for some time ( i guess she disliked getting feelings for me). I had been a beta douche throughout all the communication with her.