How do you shift a relationship to your frame when it is almost 100% in the girls frame, and when you naturally don't have much to talk about with her?

wataDs · 2018-02-27T10:52:16+00:00

Do you have friends? How active is your life in terms of working towards professional goals, hobby goals, etc goals? How deep are you in TRP principles in your day-to-day?

If you have to keep your conversations to her running her mouth and you telling her what to do around the house, so be it. Save your chit chat about your daily achievements for the guys.

I have a pal that is more self-centered in many ways, drove me crazy as he would brush off some stuff I wanted to talk about. Eventually I realized to disregard uninteresting shit and talk about stuff that concerned the both of us. Whatever. I found a common ground that was engaging for both of us. Accept that there are some things you won't be able to change and hopefully that will help you moving forward.

shydominantdave · 2018-02-27T08:44:42+00:00

Now that I think about it, I feel like she may have disempowered me to talk about myself with her. The few times I mentioned something I may have done without including her, she gets extremely uncomfortable and will change the subject back to her life, no matter how trivial the experience in her life is compared to mine (A big event I went to vs. a TV show she watched during that event). Topics I bring up don't really get talked about beyond a simple "that's great!", unless they are about something with her. My mind is just always blank now when I am with her, and it drives me crazy. I feel like she doesn't receive my life. So I just don't even go there anymore. Has anyone else dealt with this?

Title	How do you shift a relationship to your frame when it is almost 100% in the girls frame, and when you naturally don't have much to talk about with her?
Author	shydominantdave
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	February 27, 2018 8:39 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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