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[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
i like her but get annoyed when she is not care
This is the WRONG attitude. You need to go into it without any expectations. You might be a great guy and do everything right, but if she isn't interested then she isn't interested.
Just be yourself around her and after some time, ask her out to coffee or something. Just remember you can't force anything to happen. If it's meant to be it will, but if you try to force it you're gunna fuck it up.
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That’s too much bro. Ask her to work on an assignment together or to grab coffee before class. Text like normal. Stay in your group unless invited. Also don’t get too invested in one girl.
[–]No_Country7045 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If you make a big deal out of her taking time to reply then you'll almost certainly lose her
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[–]No_Country7045 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes. It's perfectly normal. Peoples lives don't revolve around messaging, if she's responding that's a good thing just let her respond in her own time. I definitely wouldn't 'focus' on contacting her, eg going out of your way to see/talk to her at school as it'll come across creepy.
[–]CompetitionFair7686 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago* (9 children) | Copy Link
Well she isn’t your girlfriend, you haven’t kissed or hooked up with her. So of course you are not a priority to her.
I don’t know where you got the idea that a girl who has nothing with you should make you a priority and treat you as if you were already something. You are just people who talk nothing more.
That’s normal considering you have nothing with her.
You cannot lose someone you’ve never had. Based on how you talk it seems like you are in an imaginary relationships with this girl. Like i’m your head you feel she is your girlfriend when she isn’t.
If you ever act upset with a woman lack of attention, you look lame as fuck. Specially if you don’t have anything with her.
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[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
If i’m honest with you, i don’t think you are ever gonna have anything with her because you are just so clueless about girls. You expect a simple solution to a difficult problem which is that in order to get girls you must know about girls, and you don’t. That’s not something that can be learned in a simple reddit post.
For example, you say you want to get a good connection with her, and what does that mean? That you want to become her close friend? That’s literally putting yourself in the friendzone.
You don’t get a girl to kiss your or sleep with you by spending time becoming good friends, you do it by hitting on her,and escalating things physically fast, so that you kiss her and have sex before being in an actual relationship with her.
Then what you wanna confess your feelings to her? Hiding your intentions by becoming friends and making her feel comfortable with you before you reveal that you like her?
It’s all the wrong mindset, that is destined to failure.
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[–]CompetitionFair7686 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I did sent to her a lots of sings that like her like sending ❤️❤️ to her and tell her that she is beautiful by commenting on her photos stories Instagram and she always reply nice
That’s just feeding her ego by giving her free validation like all the other simps do.
What do you expect her to do when she sees those hearts or after she sees that you think she is beautiful? Like ok she knows and now what do you expect to happen after that now?
Giving her signals means nothing if you don’t need aválate things by making moves.
You could be complimenting every day for the rest of your life and things would still be in the same phase.
Then kiss her. Every girl from every country s ok wit kissing no patter the culture because kissing in the mouth isn’t sex, and it’s not forbidden before marriage and most girls do it usually in secret wi the guys they actually like.
WRONG WRONG SO WRONG… Becomign her best friend is literally the worst thing you can do, because that’s literally putting yourself in the friendzone forever.
That’s not how you get a girl to like you or to want something romantic with you. Literally the worst idea you have ever had.
This is all destined to failure. You literally know nothing about women and dating dynamics. Sorry pal, but it’s not gonna happen.
[–]CompetitionFair7686 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s not about confessing your feelings, dude. This isn’t a romantic movie where the protagonists finally reveals at the end of the movie how he feels, hoping that she will then understand the love and want something with him.
It’s about kissing, it’s about sexualising, it’s about hitting on her, and treating her like a girl you just want to fuck, not have a relationship with.
First you kiss and sleep with her, and after that the girl is the first one to admit before you do, that she has feelings and wants to be your girlfriend.
You need to understand how dating and seduction work, read a book on it, like “Models” or “Mode One” or “Mystery Method” because honestly you are gonna have so much trouble getting a girl to like you if you don’t
[–]CompetitionFair7686 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry but you are not gonna succeed with this girl for many reasons.
1 - You know nothing about girls and dating dynamics.
2 - You follow the friend route, which leads to the friendzone.
3 - You have oneitis, which means that rather than hitting on many girls at the same time to diversify and have more options, you are putting all your eggs on the same basket, which is the worst way to go about your dating life because you invest too much in one girl only for her not to be into you.
4 - You are afraid of taking risks, and women only respect men who take risk, not cowards.
5 - You think it’s about confessing your love for her, and it’s not. It’s about making things happen like a kiss without telling her that you love her, and you literally have no idea how.
5 - You say you don’t want to lose someone that was never yours, because you have nothing with her, so how can you lose a girl if she never was yours to begin with?
Sorry to tell you this, but no amount of talking you do with her is gonna make her see you as more than a friend because you just don’t get what the game is about.
Any guy who gets it could easily come and within one day of meeting her kiss her that same day. That’s because they know, and you don’t which means that while you wait months or years, other guys will kiss her within the first week or less of meeting her. Let that sink in.
[–]big_nose_juicer 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What Ive learned is to not waste your life obsessing over people. Ask her out on a date and get it out of the way.
If she says no, move on with your life.
[–]billy261990 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
For now in my opinion, in relation to meeting other native English speakers, please focus on improving your English speaking and socialising.
I was on a tinder date with a beautiful girl yesterday, but her English was very basic and it ruined the chemistry. After 15 minutes of us trying to communicate, she left.
This is only a suggestion. Good luck!
[–]billy261990 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's not to be that annoying guy, but no one else will learn anything from this now its been deleted.
[–]Sure-Wish3240 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I am sorry tô inform you, but someone has to:
You can not lose what was never yours.
You are in friendzone and will stay there until she becomes a single mom with 2+ kids looking for a replacement husband.
Respect her feelings and respect yourself. Kindly inform her that you used to think that you liked her as a friend,but now you know you love her. And because of that being her friend is no longer an option.
She will most likely say she sees you as a friend. In this case you are commited to actively forget her. Delete all photos, remove all contacts on all social networks. Burn It or It will burn your soul, like mine did the last 19 years.
Or in another dimension she will accept your love. But It takes a special kind of mental disease to friend zone a guy you wanna fuck.
[–]Sure-Wish3240 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think your should act as soon as reasonable just as my previous post stated. Friendzone is the worst. Its not fair to the girl, who must deal with a friend that wanna fuck her, and is not fair to the guy, who should be focusing on finding another girl to fuck.
I will warn you: i estimate you have at least 99% chance of being rejected. Be ready to forget her and remove her from your life , mind,heart and soul as soon as possible.
There is no such thing as conquering a girl. They select us, never the other way around. Free yourself from the friendzone shackles and you will find some girl that will select you.
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