I’m a virgin guy in my early twenties that struggles to find casual sex. The thing about me is that most women find me attractive but I don’t do anything about it since I’m actually an insecure guy. I mask my insecurities by coming off as “confident”; following the “Fake it until you make it” mentality, but I never “made it” after all these years. Some people have even assumed that I look like a fuckboy/badboy.

Leaving aside my insecurities, I don’t have experience, not even with dating. Mostly because I have never been interested in a romantic relationship as such, so I only want something casual (and this is where the problem starts).

I literally just want to have lustful sex with a woman. So, for me, going on dates is a complete waste of time, same as texting. But those two means are the main strategies to even engage with a woman. So i’m in quite a pickle.

Nevertheless, of course I have to do those things. But I can’t for the life of me know how to turn an interaction to have casual sex. How to people do it? Without saying explicitly: “Hey, I just wanna f**”.

I’ll figure out what to do in relation to by fears and insecurities; but how do you guys have casual sex?