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[–]focus_flow69 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Over analyzing. Just talk to her to get the answer to your burning question of if she's possibly "still interested"?
Wave next time she's looking at you, smile go up and say hi how you doing? Chat like a normal person, do not bring up past conversation or any weird observations you saw.
If the vibes and chats are good, ask her out to grab a drink.
If not, then be like ok good to see ya I gotta get back to my work.
More action you take and less thinking you do the better.
[–]Detallles[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cheers for the simple and concise input. Will do!
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
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[–]Detallles[S] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
The plan was always to show her that although she declined my invitation, I'm not gonna disappear just because of her, life moves on. Reason also why I haven't changed a thing in my routine
[–]potatoeswithfries 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What you were doing made sense. Don't listen to the angry incel.
Thankfully, his unhelpful comments get deleted by mods anyway, lmao.
[–]Detallles[S] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the support, I'm comfortable with everything that throws at me, I'm trying to improve that's what I all care about
[–]backindis -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
you're a clown buddy
[–]potatoeswithfries 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stay mad.
[–]backindis 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Don’t go back to that library my man
And don’t ever talk to her again
You’re messing up badly right now
[–]Detallles[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Why is that?
[–]backindis 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You don’t value yourself as a man
You need major help
[–]Detallles[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Can you elaborate further, I'm trying to be the best version of myself. I'm not the needy type either, and I'm very harsh on myself. I'm not giving my time to every girl I bump into
Wonder, why you think like that. Hope youvve read bother posts
[–]backindis 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You should watch fresh and fit, YouTube them
[–]Detallles[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Was that the same guy who was caught sending money to one girl just to be his GF 😂 "High-value alphas".
If that's the case well I'm doing far better than him...
[–]backindis 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LOL.
holy shit, this is rich
my dude! are you the same person?
you trying to be hot shit now? LOL
dude, you're a fucking loser! read your original post dude lol!! you talkin shit on other dudes and you're a fuckin pathetic little shit that probably can't even see his dick?? lool!! my dude, you need any help you can get, from whoever it may be lol
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Women ALWAYS have some guy hanging around her - boyfriend or not.If you wait for the so-called boyfriend to disappear before having a go, you'd be waiting forever.
Now... while you might respect that she has a boyfriend, is that guy just the first one she could get, or the best one there is, and how would she know unless she's dated everybody?
You need to reframe the situation in your head that she hasn't met you, so she has no idea how good it could be. You're doing her a favour by stepping to her.
[–]Detallles[S] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Tbh, I'm not waiting for that. At the minute, it's become ridiculous, I can't ignore all her signs, but at the same time I'm really reluctant to go ask her again. I just wanted to make sure I'm making the proper decision
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
I think your initial issue was that you asked her out before she felt "ready" and hence they throw up these excuses. I have a BF being a really common one that girls use when they're not feeling anything around you and you just go for the close.
Women's emotions change on a whim and as long as you can get her mind thinking along the lines you want her to without forcing her, you can change her initial opinion of you though.
Just say "hey, I just had an intuition... Have you ever met a guy that you know you can immediately like and trust? How do you know that this is what you're feeling when that guy is standing right in front of you?"
Of course, YOU'RE the one standing right in front of her, so the subliminal commands are vague and she then get confused. She will wonder if you mean you, or some theoretical guy. What ends up happening is that she assumes BOTH !Get her to walk you through what it's like and see how she responds.
Then try "Look, I have to go"... (a false time constraint) ...."but I'd like to share more insights about you that even your best friends don't know! How can we continue this?" and then try again for the meet up.
That should work a lot better. Otherwise your only option is to pretty much forget about her and try all that on another girl.
At first that's what I thought, I felt she was surprised but didn't want tl use that ascan excuse for her rejection. Reason also why I stopped looking at her until she showed interst again.
That's you very much, will see how that goes, I like tge opener question. Prolly I'm gonna use it
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
If it works and you actually get time to sit with her, you then just do the same thing but instead of "like and trust", you just ramp it up to "feel attraction and desire for". Sure, she may even talk about the boyfriend.... fine, let her do that... then say something like "It's great when you can feel that way, but what's even better is when you know that you're going to experience all of that again in an even more powerful way with someone new! As that's taking place I'm not saying that that person is me, but it would be fun to think about, wouldn't it?"
...and you're sitting right there.
"anyway, if you could do anything and be anywhere right now and you just want to cut loose and let it all hang out, what would that be? Actually.... don't tell me, just hold the thought...."
All this just puts ideas in her head which she won't resist, because it sounds like you're just having a normal conversation. You're not telling her to do or think anything.
Jeez, don't know where you get all these from. That's some psychology s*** right there lol. Thank you, will go step by step and see how it goes. Thank you for your time!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean, if she keeps yammering on about the Boyfriend, you can even say things like:
"I recognize that relationships are important to you. They are to me too and I respect that. An essential part of that is allowing yourself to completely trust the person you are with. So if you want to see other people as a natural extension of that trust, it's totally OK because a healthy relationship allows that to take place and has no desire to take away your freedom to do so."
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