I've been learning about frame control and its super confusing to me. i personally dont have a strong identity and cant see when people are in control of the frame or not. if someone questions my decisions ill feel the need to tell them "yes im doing this". but usually they persist to the point where if i dont explain it seems strange or anti social or just awkward. like if someone asks me why im doing something and if its good for me or whatever ill be very short and say something like yep im doing this. no im fine. but they persist until i feel compelled to explain my decision making. and after i think to myself "damn it did i just lower myself again". any tips for frame control for someone who's trying to get their confidence back?