The 4 Simple Steps To DisplayYour Value

Aight guys, here’s the deal.

Displaying your value to women is actually very simple. Like most things in life, everyone is just doing it wrong.

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The first thing most guys get wrong is they don’t know what actually constitutes value.

… and even if they somewhat know, they’re likely wasting their time on the most ineffective “value triggers”.

The second thing most guys get wrong is they don’t have a crystal-clear idea of what their value proposition looks like.

You have a limited window of opportunity to display your value. How are you ever going to capitalise on that if you don’t even know what value you’re offering?

Step 1: Understand what women find valuable.

Off the top of my head - here are “The Big 4” Value Triggers:

  • Preselection
  • Sexual Value
  • Emotional Stability
  • Survival Value

Step 2: Designing your value proposition

I want you to think of your “value proposition” as your “resume” for game.

You wouldn’t go job hunting without a well-written resume. That would be insanity! They would have zero incentive to hire you, because they have no idea what value you’re able to provide to the company.

They’d laugh your ass out of the interview. Actually, you probably wouldn’t even get an interview!

It’s the same with women. If you don’t display what value you have to offer, then why should they be with you?

Many guys resist this idea. They have an unhealthy sense of entitlement. They believe the girl should automatically be attracted or approve of them “just because”.

It’s absolutely fucking ridiculous when you think about it.

You wouldn’t expect an employer to hire you “just because”.

So how on earth could you ever expect a girl to decide that you’re a “good fit” for her without knowing your value?

Maybe you’re an amazingly successful guy with tons of value to offer! But she doesn’t know that (especially if you just met)

You gotta show her.

So logically, you first need to know EXACTLY what your value proposition is.

Do this - open up a Google doc (or pen & notebook if you’re oldschool like David Swift) and write down EVERY SINGLE REASON you are a good option!

Positive personality traits. Past accomplishments. Valuable skills. Anything goes - don't be picky.

You may struggle identifying them - that’s incredibly common. We’re socially conditioned to be “humble”, and to believe we’re “not good enough”.

In fact, most guys seriously underestimate the value they’re able to provide. We’ve had students who were some of the most badass people I’ve ever met. They were pilots. Owned multiple incredibly successful businesses. Knew how to fight. Been on the board of Fortune 500 companies. And even then, they’d struggle identifying their value!

Once we helped them identify their value & showed them how to display it, their results FUCKING SKYROCKETED! They'd be able to create attraction & interest with almost every single girl they interacted with afterwards!

So you can think of this as a “mental exercise” to start becoming more aware of how much value you actually have!

I've done this a lot myself. And funny enough - as I went about my days, I'd catch myself coming up with more and more things to put in this list.

My subconscious started doing this for me!

The key here is not to think too much. Just sit down and start writing.

I don’t care how seemingly small or stupid your reasons are. Write them down.

(bonus points if you can somehow relate them to the “Value Triggers” in Step 1)

Do this every day for at least a month, and watch your entire fucking self-perception transform for the better.

Step 3: Find a way to display your “value proposition”

Hopefully (if you actually did the assignment), you should have a list of at least 20-30 reasons why you are a good option.

Now, you need to find ways to sneak these into your interactions.

There are two ways to do this:

  • Pro-actively creating opportunities to display value (baiting)

Make her ask you a question that allows you to bring up one of the points of your “resume”.

This could be as simple as asking her “What do you do for work?”. She will tell you what she does. “Oh cool!” - Now she will ask you back. And you want to find a way to frame your job in the most attractive light possible.

  • Capitalising on opportunities given by the girl to display value
  • Relating whatever she said to one of the points in your “resume”.

Step 4: Maintain your value over the long-term

This one can be a bit tricker. But it basically comes down to not damaging the positive perception that you’ve created in Step 3!

Behaviours that could damage this perception:

  • Neediness
  • Desperation
  • Being emotionally reactive
  • Chasing
  • Setting negative frames
  • Having a “weak frame” (accepting frames that she’s setting out of “fear of loss”)
  • Generally DLV’ing yourself (violating the principles of the Value Triggers listed in Step 1)
  • Being indecisive