http://www.justfourguys.com/whos-to-blame

It’s axiomatic that part of maturing and growing up is accepting responsibility for those things which are yours. But maturity just as much requires us not to accept responsibility for those things which aren’t our responsibility or which we didn’t cause.

Blue pillers continue to blame men who received poor advice or no advice, even after those men do exactly the things they were told to do in order to “get it” and “figure it out”. The pattern goes something like this.

  1. Boy grows up indoctrinated with and marinated in advice and instruction which amounts to “you must be nice” and “you must be yourself”.

  2. Boy applies said advice to his detriment and repeated failure.

  3. Boy becomes man, eventually figures out something is very wrong and begins seeking help on blogs and online, or perhaps at in-person groups.

  4. When asked where he got such advice, he points out repeatedly and often that everyone around him gave him that advice. Not knowing anything different, and with authority figures consistently redirecting him back to “be nice” and “be yourself” and away from what he was observing, he followed it. But having seen he was wrong, he’s at the sites to get advice and to fix what was wrong.

  5. Blue pillers harrumph at him: “You are just blaming everyone else for your dating and relationship failures. You won’t take responsibility for your failure, inability or unwillingness to see reality. You want someone to blame so you don’t have to be responsible. And you want to wallow and wail about how everyone done you wrong.”

See the rest at the link above.