Hello! So today, I was at the cash register with some other people just ringing people out until I see a mildly attractive woman go to the guy next to me. I’m just minding my business and I happen to listen in at the end, only to hear the lady say to the guy that he is very handsome. At that point, I was full of anger.

Now, it’s probably jealousy, but I feel like it stems from my lack of success with the opposite gender. I don’t have a lot of self-confidence in that department because it’s never seemed to work out right for me. I’m 21 turning 22 soon, and I haven’t been able to go on a single date despite my efforts. I feel like while part of it was jealousy, I was also feeling a lot of built up resentment against something for my lack of success. I don’t want to blame women as it’s their own taste, but I don’t want to blame myself as I don’t think I’m the problem/unattractive. Dating apps don’t work well for me and I’m kind of at my wit’s end.

Any suggestions of where I could go to keep trying? I’ve been recommended bars but it’s been 50/50 in terms of people thinking it’s a good spot to go alone and socialize. I also haven’t had the greatest amount of success in bars so far, so idk if I need to go to bigger ones and not just restaurant ones. And any tips on how to initiate? I feel like the initiation is also the problem as I can hold a conversation just fine, I just need to get there.

Tl;dr I’m salty over other people having success while I don’t. What should I do or where should I go to improve my luck?