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[–]Liberaler 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
At that moment its your job to cut it short, take your date home and yes, erase them from your contact list.
The opposite extreme to being needy. Why would you delete her number before the thing has even played out? If the date is lame, she probably will not show up for another one anyways. Why not at least seeing what would happen? You also do not factor in, that women in many cases take longer to feel a spark than men. Some women will also take a bit more time to open up. The second date can be very different to the first one.
I get it, the (emotional) investment should be balanced, yes! I agree. But why would you flee because of a tiny indicator of disinterest? Is it about not being the one, who gets rejected? That would be childish. IMHO we are hearing the advice "move on" far too often on this board. It's called seduction and not waiting til everything is perfect from the start and does just fall into my lap.
Once again, you should not emotionally invest on a too early stage and move on when she rejects you. But why would you take yourself out of the game before it even has begun?
[–]EndProfessional5395 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Both make good points. But I'd lean more towards what OP is saying because a lot of us start off extremely needy. Maybe what he says is extreme, but sometimes that's what clicks for guys who are used to being doormats. There's a balance, like you say, and it definitely requires being sensitive to the situation. As with all things, practice and seduce.
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[–]Liberaler 5 points6 points7 points (1 child) | Copy Link
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