Approach Anxiety

E60london · 2022-03-16T00:37:35+00:00

I used to go to department stores then speak to the cutest chick, my opening was “someone at work had a nice spicy smelling cologne, what would you suggest?”

Now, you are talking to a hottie and have a clean non aggressive opener. It’s going to be your job to steer the convo the way you want it to go - by asking op n ended questions

Then go to a coffee shop with a cutie working there, walk up sounding upbeat enthusiastic and confident and say “hey how’s your day going?!” Then tell her you need a booster, what does she recommend?

Remember this is to expose you to speaking to hotties so that you reduce your anxiety in the long term. This will help dude

2022-03-15T21:04:08+00:00

Approach anxiety is bullshit ..its all in your head! Just be calm n cool like you would when you talk to a guy or a friend of yours. As you approach just think to yourself “this ain’t nothing” ..

AlphaSelfHelp1 · 2022-03-15T18:40:09+00:00

Try meditation. Tell yourself positive things you know about yourself, especially those that make you a unique person.

And if the aim of approaching is simply to destroy AA, then operate on a 'cascading scale': -if you're confident enough, do a direct cold approach. "Hey, you look cute. I thought I'd say hi'. -if that's too ballsy, try asking their opinion on something. "Hey, female opinion needed. Red shirt or blue?" -if that's still too scary, just ask for directions. -and if that's still too scary, just ask them the time.

In all cases, you're still 'approaching'-but the higher you go, the better you'll feel/the better the response will generally be in my experience.

Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

epimpstyle · 2022-03-15T22:02:24+00:00

A direct cold approach for a beginner is not that easy from my point of view.

Why you are not talking to her as you are talking to your boyfriend? Do not set high goals (like getting her phone number), just talk to her to show that you are social, you are enjoying life, in case you are funny/interesting, the girl will ask for your name (which is a very good sign, and now you can ask for her phone number).

You can not destroy the approach anxiety, but if you are acting fast there is no time to make scenarios of rejections in your head. Even if the girls are not interested, it is a success for you because you have the balls going and talking to them.

The problem is finding a topic of discussion out of nothing, this is what you have to master to be good with girls... talk about her outfit, hairstyle, cars in the road, building, street, ask a question/opinion, invent a funny/interesting story... it doesn't matter just choose a topic and talk.

Title	Approach Anxiety
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Date	March 15, 2022 5:52 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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