Why do we get stifled around certain people (more in our head , shrink our personality ) and with close people you can be unstifled , and some people are unstifled in all situations

norwegiandoggo · 2022-03-14T09:20:07+00:00

With strangers = Monitor own behavior because you want to make a good impression.

With friends = They already approve of you and like you. No need to monitor your own behavior to the same degree.

People who are unstifled with strangers: Give less of a fuck about what others think. Just want to be themselves and don't care if that gives a good or bad impression. They show up, instead of trying to fit in. This is the key to becoming unstifled yourself. But it requires knowing who you are. If you don't know who you are then you will be at the whim of who others want you to be.

StereoFood · 2022-03-14T15:08:11+00:00

Glad you asked this. My friends I’m comfortable, my gf I’m comfortable, my roomate is my friend but also has always acted better than me or always one ups whatever I say in conversation. Talks over me, talks louder and tries to be the center of attention in any conversation. I respect him, I respect he tries hard and has solid views. I don’t think he’s more or less than I am, possibly, but I know he is very judgmental and anything I say he seems to scoff at and know better than I. This is why I am stifled and not myself around him. He controls the frame somehow. It sucks. Idk what to do

lookinformyglasses · 2022-03-15T08:04:07+00:00

I first noticed this thing because it happened to me too when i started going to college 2 years back. This thing led me to believe that i wasnt funny and dont have a personality or have nothing to talk to with the new people i meet. Turns out it was just these filters i was putting up.... so glad i managed to get around it.

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