No matter what you believe about the law of attraction, there’s a mindset you can adopt that will improve the type of energy you convey when interacting with others.

On the surface it may sound delusional, but if you are actively pursuing that specific goal, believing you have already achieved the goal will support your focus in achieving it. Again, without consistent work toward that specific goal, this mindset is delusional daydreaming. Avoid ‘pretending’. This type of mindset shift isn’t meant to be an act, or superficial front; you are supposed to authentically feel the emotions.

As an exercise, walk into a busy cafe, store, or mall to practice this mindset. Imagine yourself as the version of yourself as you want to be seen: someone who is centered, distinguished, who has impacted others with his work. It may be difficult at first. Don’t repress yourself, imagine how it feels to be at the top. You’ll begin to notice others trying to catch a glimpse of you when you walk in their vicinity.

The more you adopt this mindset, it’ll become almost second nature. Your confidence will improve, and your interactions with others will generally more positive, including with women.

People want to be around others who are positive, and convey a sense that they can’t be deterred form what they want. Getting in frame of mind where you have already achieved helps you emit that kind of energy.

Some examples:

  • If you write, put yourself in the mindset where you are a well-known author, whose work has impacted millions of people. Get in touch with how it feels to be admired, to have a skill that allows you to touch the emotions of others.

  • If you are pursuing opening a business or just starting out, get in touch with your sense of independence, or the positive feelings associated with being a leader and having others rely on you.

  • If you are working to improve your skills with women, instead focus on feel how it would feel to be a generally charismatic person, the type of person that commands the attention of men and women alike when they walk into a room. Someone that others rely on, who knows how to listen. Someone who doesn’t seek the approval of others, but still somehow draws them in.