One of the best things for my confidence, although initially uncomfortable, was taking on certain leadership roles in my job. Now, it doesn’t phase me, but it was initially nerve wracking and very uncomfortable, since I’m not naturally comfortable in front of crowds.

Every month, I have to organize and lead a large scale meeting of subject matter experts from my company across the country. There are usually about 70 attendees. I have to create the agenda, make sure everyone can connect, and be the primary presenter and facilitator of discussions.

It was really uncomfortable at first. I’m sure my first several meetings were not smooth, but over time it improved and now I feel confident every time I lead these type of meetings. I still make minor mistakes from time to time, but I’ve learned to have a sense of humor about it.

This confidence has carried over into my social life as well. No matter how small, find opportunities wherever you can to consistently take on leadership roles and get outside your comfort zone.

Volunteer, lead your sports team, come up with activities for your social group, request to take on additional leadership assignments at work. Even if these are small, the confidence of stepping outside your comfort zone and leading other people will impact other areas of your life, including your social life.

You will be more assured, a better communicator, and not be as needy and willing to please others. Adopt the same mental approach you take in your leadership role, and the results will carry over into all other areas of your life.