I [22M] just graduated from college and now it feels really weird to try and talk with college freshmen

2022-02-08T18:23:53+00:00

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BinnyBunny · 2022-02-08T20:39:06+00:00

TLDR: Yes I felt this way before, re-evaluate your life (in a good way) and yes its valid

Im 28, dating a 22 yo. Its not the age gap its the life experiences. Graduating from college is just a milestone, and while it wasnt that long ago you were 18, just the fact that youre done school means your life is going to be different whether you can embrace it or not. Small things like priorities changing, stress sources changing etc, and if your life is going to change you're going to change. Its just something that someone who's still in school is not going to "get" even if they understand. This is also a good time to re-evaluate yourself and what you want from women. If you're evolving as a man, then its only natural that what you want from women also changes.

Lefanteriorascencion · 2022-02-08T18:13:51+00:00

I’m 22M, just graduated college as well. I don’t know why, but it’s much easier to pull college freshmen than graduates or even a lot of seniors. They treated me like a celebrity.

throwupz · 2022-02-08T22:20:42+00:00

Meanwhile I'm here pushing 40 and feel the exact opposite..../s. Just said it for the lols

cutanddried · 2022-02-08T21:36:23+00:00

I gotta be honest - I cringed at this. I know it feels like a long time ago to you, but it really isn't.

Age 43, looking back at my 18 yo self vs my 22 yo self, there was a lot of growth during that period. everything from losing my mother in a tragic accident to graduating college. but it simply doesn't compare to where you will be at 30, or even your late 20s.

If you just got out of college, the only thing you have on freshman is the (very sheltered and consequence-free) experience of college itself. so you're better than a freshman at going to college. you're no better at adulting.

And if you're in a place where you feel you "learnt" so much about women and what they want, all I'm hearing is you have a LOT more to learn.

I see nothing wrong w you pursuing any college woman. but if you want to keep growing, and learn just how much you don't know, approach women off-campus outside of the collegiate circles.

2022-02-08T17:32:27+00:00

Hell yeah My college is about to end this June. I wonder how will I go about interacting with girls as most of them would now be seeking a better prospect once out of college in terms of financial stability.

whomeverIwishtobe · 2022-02-08T20:40:27+00:00

Different strokes for different folks man, You’re growing and changing and so your taste in women is too.

Nungie · 2022-02-08T21:01:07+00:00

Nah it’s normal, I feel the same way. We’re just not at the same stages in life.

filmmaker1111 · 2022-02-09T00:48:06+00:00

Dude that’s social conditioning, you’ll see that class rankings and all of that holds no real bounds and weight outside of the school settings. As long as she’s of legal age and willing to talk to you, forget about the other conflicting pangs of conditioning that is trying to tell you it’s wrong to talk to a freshman. You’re 22 years young. That’s literally between a 2-4 year age gap. I know Freshman’s that are talking to guys, that are 30+

2022-02-09T01:01:18+00:00

I'm in the exact opposite spot. 25 and still living in the city of my college, but I've been on the lamb due to the pandemic for 2 years now, and only really now starting to try to live my old life again. Feel that I was deprived of that golden opportunity age (22-25) where I'm young enough to date girls in college, confident enough to succeed at cold approaches, and finally have the financial resources to take girls on nice dates. I wasn't a very confident person in college, so I didn't have much of a dating life and I was going to make up for lost time, but then the pandemic hit. Now when I consider driving down to campus to do daygame approaches, I just feel weird. When I had just graduated it'd make sense for me to be in the area (I still had friends in school, still lived near campus, etc). Now it would just feel weird to be an older dude hanging around a college campus he's long since graduated from hitting on women.

So my advice is: get over this mental block you're having and enjoy the golden age of your dating life where you're young enough to have the carefree & adventurous dating experiences of a college-age student while having the maturity and financial stability of an adult. It won't last forever.

iiexistenzeii · 2022-02-08T18:32:33+00:00

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2022-02-09T08:25:16+00:00

Well, you just stepped to a higher level, maybe try to change your direction instead of going back to the same stories? :)

Title	I [22M] just graduated from college and now it feels really weird to try and talk with college freshmen
Author	MrBlueLizard
Upvotes	82
Comments	24
Date	February 8, 2022 5:27 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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