Should I stop initiating dates?

Taiyella · 2022-01-25T18:21:16+00:00

First mention it to them that you would like for them to also plan or contribute to dates ideas etc so it’s not all one sided

Depending on how she responds is how you go.

gt35r · 2022-01-25T21:39:46+00:00

Sort of depends on the woman. Some are old fashioned depending on their culture or how they were raised, some are just playing the dating field and have other things going on or seeing other people as well so they don't put any effort in and just agree for convenience. I am currently dealing with the first part, she really likes me and I like her a lot but feels the man should be the one planning/initiating. It's much different than some previous relationships but if you dont think the woman is worth the effort it's not like you have to date them. Also you could actually bring it up in person if it's bothering you to that point.

oreopimp · 2022-01-25T22:33:37+00:00

Calibrate. Pay attention to your actions and her actions. It sounds like maybe you’re always initiating (a push) and she’s not (a pull). So maybe do a pull of your own by not asking for anything, keeping it chill which will allow her to fill the space and come toward you with a push of her own (her asking when you’re going to go out again or planning a day to go out).

Keep the push pull dynamic in mind and see what happens. So just keep pulling whenever you talk (meaning you don’t ask to go out or set up a time to go out).
Clarification: Silence is a pull. Statements are a pull. Questions or things you say that need a response or commitment from her are a push

Title	Should I stop initiating dates?
Author	jenkinsonfire
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	January 25, 2022 6:19 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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