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[–]TearsofAnger 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She flaked on you and is shit testing you
Keep playing her games or move on.
[–]IngenuityNo1518 35 points36 points37 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Definitely a shit test bro! You gotta go out meet some other chicks so you can have some options too. You gotta play the game too don’t react to it, but she gotta know you have other options too.
[–]MrHouseGang 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This but she doesn’t necessarily have to know you have other options. If you don’t show pride you’ll win
[–]headcase1111 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Move on. I know how tempting it is when you don’t have success to cling to your one shot at getting laid, but this girl ain’t it.
She flaked once, and is trying to fuck with you by bringing up other guys.
Don’t give her the satisfaction of chasing her anymore.
Be the bigger person and decide she doesn’t live up to YOUR standards of having basic respect
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This sounds like a good way to never get laid when all of them act like this. Because a lot of people act like this
[–]fuckboychadlmao 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think it depends on what op is looking for. Just trying to get laid? Go for it, who cares……. Looking for something more serious? I’d second guess it. I don’t want to be in a relationship with girls who casually say things just to try to make me jealous and or triangulate me with other men.
[–]headcase1111 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m not going to pretend like I’m Casanova or anything, but in my experience, when a girl likes you, she makes it easy as possible.
Maybe a girl who has you on the back burner will flake and test you before the first date, but not someone actually into you
[–]a-little-spice 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Ask her why she’s telling you that. Then say you’re not interested in playing childish games. Don’t be butt hurt but don’t ignore and let her walk over you. Call out bad behavior
If you ignore then it shows you’re afraid to upset her.
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[–]a-little-spice 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Because if you’re pursuing her and she’s pursuing someone else then you walk. It’s fucking rude as shit.
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[–]a-little-spice 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“I know what you’re doing, cut it out”. It’s not playing into her hands it’s establishing boundaries
[–]norwegiandoggo 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
She's simply informing you that she is not interested for the time being. She wants to see how things go with her crush first. Your best move is to say "cool" or "no problem" and then go hit on other women. She might reach out if things don't work out with her crush.
[–]imnotanevilmaniswear 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Or in other words, you're plan b
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
It's irrelevant if you're plan A or B this early in the dating stage. She barely knows OP at this point. They haven't been on a single date.
[–]imnotanevilmaniswear 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yes it is irrelevant, which is makes it weirder that she had to vocalise that he's plan b, talk to your crush, ghost me if it works out, it's none of my business, this feels more like a game to test his composure
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Not everything is a test. I think she was just either trying to be honest. Or she was trying to send a clear message that she's not into OP. The shit-testing scenario is extremely rare. I bet you that 90% of the time someone yells shit-test that's not the woman's intention. She's either letting him know so OP can set his expectations accordingly (which is nice and ethical to do). Or she's saying it to show that she's not into OP but another guy instead, so that OP can move on and give up hope faster (which is also a nice thing to do). It's not smart to assume people have these negative intentions. People usually act out of positive intentions. They might do some idiotic or hurtful thing but they usually believe doing that thing is good. Rarely do grown women go out of their way to annoy or bullshit a guy just to "test his boundaries". That's more like teenager behavior. But. Of course I don't know and OP didn't mention their ages. If she's still a teen or young, maybe indeed she is shit-testing him to see how he will react. Shit-testing is something usually done by young and insecure girls.
[–]truthbomb999 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly this. Never be a secondary plan for anyone
[–]lydiakinami 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah ppl here saying it's a test. Either play it cool, meet some other ppl, or if you think that's odd, you csn also tell her that you don't like to play this games and give hr an ultimatum or something. I personally would have a problem being together with someone 'tests' me every once in a while, because I don't wanna waste time proving myself.
[–]Glad_Scientist_9892 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She was testing you
[–]Redis_Sara 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cut her off, block her, forget about her, don’t talk to her ever again, I talk to multiple different girls just cuz if one flakes on me.
[–]Visible_Ad_2990 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Mention your summer fling as well. If you had one.
[–]letmereaddamnit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry bro, she thinks you're second fiddle.
[–]Munchakoopas420 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Assert dominance, marry summer crush and invite her to the wedding
[–]TheTruth221 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yeah she trying to get u to react
just push forward like in call of duty when u gotta enter the circle before the storm closes on u
[–]GroundbreakingAd8077 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't make a big deal about it, and btw you should be seeing other girls or at least trying, I had a girl ask if she could fuck a guy, I said I didn't care cause I was fucking another girl, and she said she didn't even want to cause he was boring, so yeah make her commit first
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