Meeting women a lot nowadays, how to maximize my opportunities and lead to dates?

ShampooMonK · 2021-11-09T15:12:57+00:00

How should I go to Bars alone? I lack confidence to go alone and usually go with meetups.

Body language, how you carry yourself.

Avoid signs of nervousness * When it comes to body language, try and avoid nervous movements, looking around quickly, looking down at the floor, fidgeting, touching yourself and this sort of thing.
Try to get control over your body. Stay still when you’re still and when you move, make slow, smooth movements.
Keep it cool and keep your movements slow and smooth. And when you’re walking around the venue, don’t rush around. Walk at a smooth pace, almost as if you’re gliding around the place.
Consider the first impression you make - Girls are very observant; even if they aren't watching or facing you, they can still sort of tell.
They can see all of this just from their peripheral vision. Girls have much better peripheral vision than guys, so be aware of the impression that you’re making at all times.
If you’re standing at the bar with your drink and you’re checking out all the girls that go past, and if you’re in a group of guys that are all doing the same thing, you’re going to make a bad first impression.
If there are girls standing along the bar talking to each other but they’re facing outward, look where their feet are pointing. If they turn and take notice every time a guy comes in or walks past, it probably means they’re more available, single and looking to meet guys that night.

Listen, is it easy? Absolutely not. It's terrifying but... Go there with your head high, shoulders back, and your stance wide while taking up space.

When you approach women, DO NOT APPROACH them while standing by the bar, that's creepy behavior. Just casually walk around, hold your glass high to women and say, 'cheers!'

Optimize and see their reaction, if their warm and friendly, chances are you can re-engage them later. Do not USE pick up lines. For god's sake, just be friendly, warm, and say, "hey how's your night going?" That's it! And then deep dive with personal questions, get compliance, (here let's grab a seat over there, let me see your hand, that's a pretty necklace let me see it?") Helps weed out those interested and uninterested.

As for social proof? Say hi to everyone, imagine how every dude you meet is your best friend from a long time ago, and just approach them like that. Chances are most of them will have female friends and guys tend to be very chill about letting you hook up with their friends, especially gay best ones. (I've had my fair share of women all because gay best friends would get tired of taking care of them, and just threw them at me lol.)

The more you get into the mode of saying hello and being comfortable talking to strangers, the more attuned women will notice that. If you're the stranger/life of the party, women will gravitate towards you.

Be friendly, warm, and most importantly be confident always assume attraction!

Closing for dates -

I try not to do this to be honest. I will mention briefly what they like to do, and mention, "we should do that together sometime," and gauge her reaction. Then say, "hey let me get your number, and I'll text you soon for the details."

What I do try to go for is physically escalate to hook up. If you hook up, chances are you'll have a greater chance of dating her/putting her in your rotation.

EDIT:

Night time questions you should ask!

Ask who's she there with. If she's with her friends and they haven't seen each other in a while, then hurry up and ask her number and get out of there.
If her response is that she doesn't know the people too well, it probably means she is more likely to leave them or excuse herself. If the people are staying with her and she's either responsible for them, it means you probably cannot escalate for sex because she has to take them home/let them in her house.
If she's the DD, just prime her with quick deep diving/touching and make your exit as you grab her number.
What is she doing later tonight?
Ask what her plans are later that evening. Is she going to another club or staying? Find out what her receptivity is to doing something else, or an afterparty/another location. If she says, "I don't know... What are you doing?" It means she's more open to doing stuff. And if she says, "I'm doing what you're doing..." It's a wrap, and you should escalate and close the deal.
Ask her what she's doing tomorrow
If she has a busy morning, important exam, or whatever that would require her to leave early. She probably won't be down to smash, so you need to go for the quick interaction and grab that number.
If she doesn't have anything planned, it's a good thing. If she does however leave the door open by suggesting, "nothing really, I'm just sleeping in." There's a good chance that she may or may not want to come back with you to your place. So make sure to ask these questions when you're in the club/bar.

Title	Meeting women a lot nowadays, how to maximize my opportunities and lead to dates?
Author	TheRealWholesome7
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	November 9, 2021 1:43 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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