~ archived since 2018 ~
Popular
Other
yhw0
[–]Alive-Doughnut2345 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Well you have a good attitude but I think you also have time on your side that might be why you’re not so worried.
However, long term complacency is bad. Your youth won’t last forever so try to continue being proactive without overdoing it.
Just whatever you do don’t make my mistake when I was younger and tell yourself you don’t want it
[–]yhw0[S] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yep, that's my worst fear. It's really hard finding that middle ground that I'm looking for between my friends who are extremely desperate to meet a girl and some who have quit entirely. I don't wanna look back in 5 years and be regretful about what I didn't do like I am with my high school and middle school experiences.
[–]Alive-Doughnut2345 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah you got the right idea. Don’t be flipping desperate they hate that but don’t close yourself off entirely.
It’s tough cause like how do you even do that lol but you’ll figure it out. Just relax work on yourself, engage in your hobbies and studies that’s the most important part
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Advice? 18 years old, start saving money and get to that coastFIRE net worth. Also, lift. Heavy. A lot.
[–]yhw0[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No offense but this doesn't really help. I'm already doing the stuff you've described but I think my problem is moreso psychological or something.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok, you’re young so I will step it all out to you.
Step 0: Realize that it is more probable to get from where you to where you want to go in smaller, faster steps than in one swoop.
Step 1: Invest in your health and wealth. I’m talking REALLY invest. Not some wishy washy had waving stuff goal that ends. Your end goal is a system that takes little to no effort to run for the rest of your life.
Example on how to do it wrong: You will 3rep max bench 2x your body weight, squat 3x your body weight, deadlift 4x your body weight. You will have $30k invested in VT.
Example how to do it right: 30 min time on 5km run, distance increases 50m every time run is under 30min. Investment portfolio grows by 30% of annual income, annually in VT.
Step 2: Double check you’re not gay. Its ok, nobody really cares anymore. Also check your T.
Step 3: Pursue your passions. I’m talking late nights, obsessive research and its all you talk or think about. Its more than not caring if you’re rejected, its more than how you look, its your appetite for life.
The reason you’re feeling so apathetic to attempts at the opposite sex have ended in your definition of failure. Failed so many times you unconsciously defeat yourself before the attempt is made. You’ll have to reframe what the interaction is about. Is your goal to approach? Ok, go ahead and approach. Outcome is whether you approached or not. No hesitation in approaching? Then get a name on a cold approach and initiate a light physical touch. Done that? Find a common interest you can chat about at a high level. Make the interaction more physical.
I think you should get it from here.
[–]yhw0[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao pretty sure I'm not gay but the rest of this advice is really helpful. Thank you!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can be depressed without being sad
[–]youcheekydelinquent 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
maybe do something that recharges you? exercise, art, building something, seduction is a marathon, not a sprint.
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.created by /u/dream-hunter
[–]Alive-Doughnut2345 8 points9 points10 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]yhw0[S] 3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Alive-Doughnut2345 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]yhw0[S] 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]yhw0[S] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]youcheekydelinquent 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link