I posted about this story before, made my girl unhappy (mostly my fault), she left after 5y, I tried everything to get her back after 3 months, she had already started something new, I failed, had a very clean and respectful end (3 multiple hour conversations where I tried to convince her to try again, thanked her, said goodbye and told her it is gone for good now and I don't want to hear from her again). 4 weeks later we meet because we need to exchange a key, she starts texting me about being disappointed that I'm cold, don't talk, she tries to treat me well and don't know what she's done wrong, was looking forward to seeing me, trying to treat me well again, caring for me, she is feeling sick, she has to go to the doc because she feels physically and mentally bad, she listens to my music every day, I'm an egoist and don't care for her and more... I ignore all it. After a while she continues with our cat that needs castration, he is important to me, so I cannot ignore anymore...

This was already weird, now it getting even more strange:
I reply now, I'm busy, coming back to you on the weekend (her birthday on Saturday). I don't send wishes and contact her on Sunday: If it is important I'm willing to talk, but stop texting me. Re the cat administrative stuff. She replies are you serious hahahaha. I stay neutral, acknowledge she is hurt, clarify cat related stuff, she complains about me not sending birthday wishes, I say again, let's talk or stop texting me. We also clarify some handover of things that belong to me, I say if you fucked with your new BF on my mattress, just keep it, she says I do not have a new BF, I say don't care about the details, keep them for you. Anyways, she wants to talk, she said it multiple times, wants to understand what she did wrong. If she wants to talk, she has to come to my place, 60km distance, I'll tell her where and when. She has a meeting there on Nov. 20. so I said let's do it then, but she wants it earlier. I told her, I'll check and tell her where and when. Also asked her if she can do me a favor, she replies yes, I don't have time text for 24h or so, so she asks, still need the favor, I say yes, please stop texting me, we will talk. She says, this is sad, but she will try.

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So... I have a couple presumptions what she is doing here: ego validation, need for harmony, caring for me, wanting to have good terms because of the cats, missing me although not wanting me back, some sort of grieving, enjoying the emotional roller coster of the break up while still not being alone and fucking with her new BF.

But what the hell is she expecting from our talk? I told her it's over, I don't want to see or hear her again. She is putting so much effort, replying every text I send within some mins, accepting all this degradation by trying to get into contact while I ignore her, tell her to stop texting me, being cold while she tries and tries again, coming to my current place 60km away as I order her to do although I have an apartment 200m from her place where I stay every now and then. Isn't that a bit much effort for a person which isn't a part of your life anymore? I expected her to approach me at some point, but the intensity really confuses me, actually it also hurts quite a lot, but if I don't resolve this now she will haunt me forever... and yes, if it won't get better, I'll also cut the ties to my cats and ignore her everywhere, never talk to her again etc.

Any views on this new development here, I'd really appreciate it.