So many of you here have likely seen any number of my posts.

In some more recent, I have talked about a relatively (month and a half) new younger woman in my life (I am 51m she is 32f). We met at a social group party and hit it off instantly. Facts that later when we had intimate conversation that went deeper than the physical and sexual attraction and activity, she told me that I had her “hook, line and sinker” from the first time seeing and talking to me and that I had zero worries about her interest.

She has since proven this through direct behaviors including being the first woman in my life that I was not previously involved with to invite me out and completely insist on treating the entire dinner/drinks/club covers date. Like I literally have never had that happen to me before being a bit old fashioned about it (married time and LTR excepted as that was more I got this one you get that one stuff).

Throughout a LOT of close, open and intimate conversations, she has repeatedly laid out plans for “our” future - including weekends at her/my place, trips, activities and so on. At the same time she has (she’s a talker in an endearing way and was obviously still nervous at the time) always caught herself at the tail of these pronouncements to say “but I’m still single and you’re single and it’s all ok”.

So that brings question number one.

Is she saying that because she is fearful of losing her identity/freedom/self in an actual relationship? Or is she just running excited about having me as a steady FWB for “boyfriend” activities and sex (it was beyond good - top three lifetime and I am very experienced). To clarify, our first evening/night spent together she was literally glued to my side the entire night and later when she had had too much to drink I made sure that she was safely sleeping all night (this blew her away later that I didn’t take advantage of her as she was willing but I won’t do non consensual ever).

I am good at objective so I have presented this in as unbiased a manner as I can to get true and honest opinions from everyone.

So second part.

She is not on ANY social media (I checked to be sure and it is true) as she is very much about her privacy (anonymous here so I’m not worried about anyone finding us) and she is also not really a texter/phone call person.

This has been tough. I’m being brutally honest eat with myself that I don’t do this well at all. I am a communicator and have trouble when I don’t get that back. Now in person, she is a incredible communicator. I have never had someone that I have established an open trusting and honest line of communication with this rapidly. But getting through the work week has been a serious challenge. And on top of that, we have both had a two to three week stretch of very busy or pre planned activities (she had a seminar last week followed by a special outdoors trip and I had a concert and a ball buster work week).

I am trying very hard to not take the lack of constant stuff personally and without doing detail here there are certain other factors - unavoidable - that resulted in cancellation of plans this weekend.

The rub is this. I am 18 years older (no bullshit thanks I hit the half plus seven rule exactly and her parents are a similar spread as well she prefers older guys for maturity). I am always busy and like things like weekend free time planned even if it’s just to spend it laying naked in bed together. So am I overthinking and just getting personally annoyed by the last minute cancel? Or is there an issue here that needs to be addressed?

Anyway thanks all in advance for whatever positive contributions you have. And last thing, maybe I just am nervous and a little afraid myself of then intensity of feeling (I can literally count on one hand how many times that had happened in my life) and just need a little positive vibe that it’s going to be ok.