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[–]DaydreamingMister 27 points28 points29 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Assuming you're a dude...
No time to detail a lot of step-by-step right now - but the answer you seek lies in...
(the kind of questions that engage a woman would by getting her talking about things she would LOVE to talk about)
2) Developing yourself as an amazing listener
Your success will be more about engaging her and getting her enjoying sharing rather than it being about you doing a bunch of talking.
[–]thefunslinga 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Would appreciate if you can share some examples of FUN questions. Thanks!
[–]DaydreamingMister 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
-Your job as the man is to engage a woman by asking questions about things she would LOVE to talk about. (Note: Some folks will read that last sentence and then choose to ask a lady a question about what she likes about her work. But think about it - the average person def does NOT love what they do for work... Ideally, they don't exactly hate it, but they may just sort of tolerate it. But even if they like their work well enough, ask yourself - is workday stuff/career stuff really the conversational path to lead a woman down on a Friday night during a freakin' date? It's a FRIDAY NIGHT and a DATE! Haha Surely there are better topics to initiate for getting the woman talking about things she would LOVE to talk about.)
-For your journey of becoming great at asking fun questions...
A good place to start can be BESTS, FAVORITES, MOSTS.
What's maybe the best compliment of your life?
So who is your favorite comedian in your family - who makes you laugh the most. Uncle Ricky? Really? Well tell me a story about Uncle Ricky!
What's the most fun you ever had on vacation?
But you will be brainstorming various questions on your own... and collecting good ones you hear in life or read online... and you'll be rejecting ones you try that don't exactly seem to inspire women you talk to.
-With all your question asking, definitely be sure not to pepper the lady with question after question, like an interrogation or a job interview. It should feel more relaxed than that.
-Just remembered - the other reminder here is that, if you’re going to be keeping things FUN… then you would do well to steer clear of heavy, serious, or uncomfortable questions.
Keep conversation positive, upbeat, and light.
Heavy or serious convos are not evil, but keep in mind - love is playful and fun! It doesn’t have to be serious all the time.
You want to create a fun date night experience, where even your chosen conversation topics are fun. There will be plenty of time down the road for going deeper with the girl, but your focus in the early phase is to have as much fun with her as possible.
Facilitate an evening spent smiling, laughing, and feeling positive feelings.
You see, what a girl feels when she’s with you is what she will associate with being with you. And you want that to be positive, happy feelings. Which helps make it an easy decision if the prospect of going on another date with you comes up.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is REALLLYYYY GOOD ANSWER! it just reminded me about stuff that I do...
Things like:
If you could change one thing about your past what would it be??
Where would you travel right now if you could go anywhere in the world (I use this one alot)
Do you believe in the universe?
Do you believe In God?
Things like that thats are really deep conversation
[–]DaydreamingMister 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Cool, man.
If that's working for you and new dating partners, keep it going!
Oh - and keep in mind that if "deep conversation" starts making you feel like the vibe is no longer playful and fun, which is the way people expect dating and love to be (especially in the early phase) - then you can always switch up your questions to avoid deep, super serious, or heavy topics.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I guess my first answer was what I do in the beginning then as things progress I would start more deep conversations.
[–]JacobMoogberg69 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Become your own best friend. If you are not excited to have other friends that are exactly like you, than you need to work on that.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Talk in statements for example instead of wuu2
"Hope you been good"
Ask questions about her and fucking listen
Then add a 2 cents about yourself and somehow bring the convo back to her with statements for example
She says
"I had a long day at work today just got home wbu"
You say
"Sounds like you need a massage and a bubble bath I just got home from work too luckily (insert some bs about yourself)"
The best way to be interesting without trying hard is to listen to the woman and get her to talk about herself as much as possible
The more you learn to talk in statements like we do with our friends the more you will get better at doing it with women
And if your a girl stfu you don't need to do anything accept show up and look pretty and show him your interested other than that it's really hard for you to fuck up
[–]HungryFood19 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
it's easy for girls to fuck up as well dude
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[–]TheSunshineMan 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
And still have no girls in your bed because you have no game.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Sunshine man back again with the truth preach brother
[–]TheSunshineMan 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I should change my name to something along those lines, any suggestions?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Along what lines ?? Preach ?? What like my name... Moreisbetter 😂
[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
My username, game and or truth related, no bs given.
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[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks I'll think about it, please delete this comment so nobody takes it.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Or even just... thetruth
Nice added to my list of possibilities
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
0/2 rip lol
[–]evilbunny_50 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel your pain.
[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thats the neat part, you dont
Sorry i dont have REAL advice
Just try to enjoy yourself and not be too serious about it. If you have to ask these types of questions, then you're probably already too serious about it.
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