I asked a girl from Uni out for drinks last weekend, she was working late so I said let me know when you are not working next week then.
She sais am probably free on Monday.
We went out for drinks and we sat to a sofa next to each other. The conversation went well and we were both making each other laugh and she kept mentioning how much she liked the place.
I asked a few sexual questions trying to steered the conversation that way but then I asked a different question and we changed the subject and I didn't know how to take control of the conversation to re initiate sex subjects smoothly so I didn't get back to it, so the rest of the night we didn't talk about sex again.
I was doing some light kino but she didn't really reciprocate. I had my arm resting behind her on the couch and when she was talking she was facing me and she would rest her elbow on my arm. At some point we noticed a young girl spinning on her own on the dance floor and I made a comment that she must be lonely, dunno why.
She said go ahead am going to be here watching. I said nah she is too drunk for me right now. (Her suggestion to go to her made me think she wasn't interested to me sexualy)
Leaving the bar she offered to roll a cigarette for me and we were heading towards my apartment (her friends house is near my apartment) ,on our way she was talking about how she learned rolling cigarettes and joints from a guy that was hitting on her, but she never smoked with him because she didn't want him to say she was using him for weed.
I kept listening without talking so she said: "You didn't say anything, you must think the worst of me" I jokingly agreed.
We stopped under my buildingand I invited her up for another drink but she said she already made plans to meet at her friends house.
I kissed her on the cheek goodnight, she said: "well I'll see you in Uni or something I guess? "
I don't know I haven't gone out with a girl for a loong time, should I just ghost? The positive thing from this interaction is that I think I can identify a few obvious mistakes:
Not aggressive with escalation - not polarizing enough Minimal if any sexual tension
P.S I know her for a few months but we never really hang out, besides grabbing a coffee after class one time a few months back or talking briefly between classes.
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