Why do you feel the resistance when you wanna act more confident and be your natural self with people like i feel reserved around other people except with my best friends

Chicagoj1563 · 2021-09-02T19:32:00+00:00

I took an rsd program, and Owen called this “safety in the herd.” He used an example where 1 guy came to the front of the room and yelled at the top of his lungs. He was awkward and holding back. Then he did the same thing, but with the whole class yelling with him. Then it was more like a scene from the movie brave heart after a battle where everyone was celebrating together. The guys body language and everything was drastically improved.

The point is, it’s Normal to feel safety within a group, especially if it’s your friends.

The advice is when you are feeling comfortable with your friends (safety of the herd), try to remember what that feels like. Make a mental note of it. When you are around others you don’t know, try to get into that same state. You just need to practice. The end result is core confidence instead of situational confidence. If you get it down, it won’t matter who you are around. You will have core confidence around anyone.

Chicagoj1563 · 2021-09-03T15:09:24+00:00

This was covered in hot seat at home and the blueprint decoded products from rsd. Sadly, they retired this content, but you may be able to find it online if you look around. Rsd does self help now, but probably will cover these topics in the new content.

But I think the main idea is to practice getting into the same vibe around strangers that you do when around friends. I think it just takes practice. We filter ourselves which is the problem. So, it’s a process of becoming unfiltered around others.

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