Preface: I went out on the weekend to nightclubs. I think I improved on establishing premise without showing too much intent or being needy. I went through with the game plan (illustrated in my previous field report) and I think it might have helped a little...? Really hard to tell. Improvements seem to be very small at best. I think a big issue I've noticed this weekend was that I'm not persistent enough after I've hooked the set. What I need to do is be way more persistent and be a problem solver when the girl presents obstacles/problems that prevents her from being compliant with me. I also realized that I should test compliance way earlier in the set.

Sets:

  1. 3 Hispanic girl set that lasted maybe 20-30 minutes. They were all friendly and receptive. The set wasn't really going anywhere. Mostly platonic. I didn't really had a target girl that I wanted to talk to. Thinking back now, I don't even know why I entered this set. I wasn't really interested in any of them. More of warm up set I guess since it was my first one of the night. I eventually started focusing more on one of the girls. I attempted to establish a man to woman premise. It worked but she declined it because she has a BF which is cool, saves us both time. For some reason, her friend wanted to add me on IG, I can't remember why. I exited the set soon to pursue other girls.
  2. two asian girls sitting. I approached and they were hooked on the set pretty quickly. Sorry, I can't remember the topics of discussion. I did group management initially and then focused more on the prettier one. I did verbal and physical escalation on the pretty one and it worked. After like 20mins of talking, I moved in for a kiss because she had been quite receptive to all the physical escalations. We were kissing very briefly maybe 5 seconds and then I said I have to go meet up with my friends so whats your number. She gave me her number and I bailed. I exited this set because this was my second one and I wanted to do more sets.
  3. Very cute white girl at the bar. The set lasted like 5 minutes. This set was interesting because I still dont know what the hell happened. We were just talking. I think I was escalating verbally and establishing the man to woman premise. For some reason, she just like...gave me a hug and kissed me on the cheek. Then we just went back to chatting. Since she kissed me on the cheek on her own accord I knew she was ok with physical escalation so I start holding her by her waist as we were talking and pulling her closer to me. We just kept flirting and she kissed me on the cheek two more times. Then she said she has to go meet up with her guy friend. I think here might be my problem, I don't like following girls when they leave a set because that seems stalker-ish and I don't want them to feel like I'm forcing the interaction on them. This is where my persistency dilemma comes in. What I should have done was be more assertive and tell her to stay for a bit more and that her friend can wait. But.... I didn't, I just gave up and let her leave without a "fight".
  4. 2 very pretty asian girls just standing. They're sober. I approach. They're friendly and polite. Verbal escalations and establishing a premise isn't working. She's not into me. Why I'm mentioning this set is because this random bro comes into the set and starts talking to one of them. This is good, he's winging me. However, he's not having any success either. They say they have to go and the 2 girls leave. I start talking to him and turns out he's doing exactly what I'm doing so I finally met someone else doing solo pickup at the club after 2 weeks.
  5. White girl at the pool. Set lasted maybe...40 minutes. I approached and she seems hesitant at first but I plowed through that shit. She wasn't receptive at first but eventually it worked, she got hooked onto the set. We talk a little and then I suggest we go into the pool. We get into the pool and start dancing. Grinding occurs. Front to front dancing occurs and this is where I try to kiss her. I could sense that she wanted to but was reluctant. At this point, idk why she's reluctant. Anyways, she tells me "sorry i cant kiss you, is that ok?". I was like sure idc, remember initial No's does not mean no, just not yet. So we keep dancing and grinding. We go deeper into the crowd within the pool. She straddles me as I carry her and dance. We make out on and off. We go back to the more shallow end of the pool. I wanted to test compliance and isolate her from her friend who's with some other guy in the pool so I suggested getting a drink. She said no she doesnt want to leave her friend. She's less receptive than she was in the deep end of the pool. And then it dawn to me, oh shit she has a BF or something. So I asked her and she says yes. Ohh... that makes no much fucking sense now. She's here telling me "youre like super cute and you're my type but I can't I have a boyfriend". Now at this point, I think my persistency failed me again. I kind of just gave up. I was thinking "eh i dont wanna deal with this logistical obstacle, it's late and I'm tired".

There were other sets that I didn't remember or were really uneventful. Sorry if you're reading my sets and things don't really make sense logically or whatever. I'm having difficulties remembering and I don't want to make this a novel so I skip out on some details. New things that I want work on this week are compliance testing and persistency.