What's your trigger before failure?

chunkycolors · 2018-04-16T06:21:12+00:00

I think my trigger moments are when I start spiraling with negative thoughts by thinking negatively of myself or being unproductive because I don’t “feel like it” that day. It takes dedication and consistency to keep that from happening.

The fact that you can acknowledge your trigger moments is a step forward. You know the consequences of what happens when you give in to “one pizza” and watching some tv. To help you push through these moments it can be helpful to reflect on your past and what you have gained/changed. To see some improvement can help to motivate you in the present.

Docbear64 · 2018-04-16T06:40:41+00:00

I've learned compliments and external validation on things I am working on is the worst thing for me. Sometimes it's nice to have the encouragement sure but I am very much a " We're not finished until we're done" type of person .

So when I'm25% - 50% of the way to my goal and people gush and pat me on the back for how awesome i am and the changes I've made are it makes me begin to think " Maybe this is good enough ?" and that kind of thought can ruin the monk mode deep focus I've adopted in that time.

The words are appreciated but I've learned unless I am sitting on top of my goal they are a deterrent I usually have to ignore in order to complete my true goal which is usually much larger and much further off.

3d_truth · 2018-04-16T13:00:00+00:00

It starts with sadness. Then that leads to a kind of 'fuck this' attitude, or even victim mentality, which leads to junk food, drugs and unproductivity.

Usually my antidote is to take my sad, sorry self to the gym. I find the same part of me that says 'fuck this bullshit let's just get high', can also aim that kind of self punishment towards the treadmill, and run for an hour.

Struggling with one of these days today.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-04-16T15:31:53+00:00

Smoking. I don’t smoke often but if I get a crazy craving and buy a pack my life will be worthless until 3 days after that pack is gone.

Casd12 · 2018-04-17T05:25:39+00:00

Usually happens at night when Im alone. Could be trigger by anything, maybe regret, maybe hopelessness. I typically question whats the point, then I get sad and depressed.

I then put on some super sad music (usually songs with little singing)and play it a bunch of times. I start off slow, then slowly change the beat of the sad songs to more fast beats, ultimately transitioning to really loud fast paste drums, almost bordering noisy. I listen to it some more, letting the music feed my sadness, eventually hitting a point where Im so over flooded with emotions that I just say 'fuck it'. But not in a defeatist way but in a way the undertone is "if this is what it takes, ill do it. Even if its pointless, even if I die not getting what I want, as long as Im alive and breathing, I will fight this fight." Then i say "fuck it" a couple more times and then head to bed.

I Wake up the next day and continue as if nothing happened. I try to shut this shit down quick, never dwell, always moving forward.

Sometimes, when I don't feel like going to the gym I'll harshly say "fuck it" a couple of times before making my way to the gym.

*As a side note, you know that scene in the movie, wolf of wallstreet, where jordan belfort says, "Im not fucking leaving! The show goes on. This is my home. They're gonna need a fucking wrecking ball to take me outta here! They gonna need to send in the national guard or the fucking swat team cus I aint going nowhere!"

This is what I feel like everytime I say "fuck it"

Title	What's your trigger before failure?
Author	locomotronn
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	April 16, 2018 6:08 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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