This is a problem some of you may be familiar with, but it is something i'm branding "attraction paradox". Before I proceed with the particular issue i seem to have, I first need to explain what it is.

The attraction paradox :

Wanting to become more attractive to women, when being attractive requires not wanting or needing to be more attractive to women.

By wanting to become more attractive for women, you're essentially submitting to women, and so can't win either way, because you'll still be doing it for the wrong reasons.

Let me give you the example.

You go up to a woman and you know that if you act like a beta simp and suck up to her she'll spot you as a weakling beta. Okay, great.

You go away and get shredded, get yourself a more masculine personality, make some money, and you come back. Well you just did all of that to be more attractive, and being more attractive depends entirely on the opinions of other people, something outside your control. So in essence you're not different from what you were. The same insecurities are STILL present below the surface, only instead of ignoring them, you started listening to them and acting on them.

You're still beta.

So how do you transcend this paradox?

Now before you say "be on your purpose", I get it. The problem is if you got on your purpose because you knew being on your purpose made you more attractive as a man. The insecurities are all still there in the background.

How do i pursue something without wanting it, if wanting it makes me beta?