If you stop thinking about girls and focus on doing your own thing, could that end up leading you to actually getting girls?

Thest0rm_99 · 2021-06-02T01:54:11+00:00

Sir, you are in the right place. There are alot of men on here who struggle daily with women and self esteem, and the whole point of this subreddit is for us all to help each other get what we want.

Firstly, yes. Your initial assumption about women being more into men who are disinterested in them was correct. Its probably the reason why your stepbrother is more successful with them.

Women hate needyness, and you probably come off as needy to women. In addition, it doesnt help your case that you seem to not have much going on in life. Low self esteem is one of those things that people can pick up on based on your demeanor, body language and the way you talk. Your first priority is two-fold.

Get better looking
Fill your life with meaningful hobbies and a good job or education that will increase your personal and financial value.

You dont hafta be rich or a body builder, but if you focus on yourself, work hard and try to improve areas of your life that are lacking, you will slowly but surely gain confidence in yourself. Personally, I think going to the gym is quintessential to this. If you like sports, check out an amateur sports league. Like dancing? take a dance class. There are social activities available that you can involve yourself in that get you out of the house and into social environments, youll meet women this way, but more importantly, youll have something better to do that sit around feeling sorry for yourself about all the women you cant bang

Once you get your shit together and increase your self esteem, go out with this step brother of yours who seems so good with women. Spending time with a guy like that will show you what kind of behavior is necessary to get women interested in you, he probably also has alot of female friends he can introduce you to, and he probably knows good places to pick up girls as well

Its a pain staking process, but its worth it. Put some hard work into yourself and youll get better results. Youll see!

JuicyNatural · 2021-06-01T16:45:21+00:00

Well you gotta do your own thing not because of girls but for you. The result may lead to getting more girls but don’t expect anything crazy...

UMustB · 2021-06-01T23:11:46+00:00

Work on yourself. The rest will come.

2021-06-02T11:31:55+00:00

Well yes, if you improve yourself and your value increase you will be able to get more and better women. However, you still need to get out and bring those women into your life. It isn't like for every 500 pushups you do a girl knocks on your door ;). I recommend going out and approaching women. You can also make profiles on OLD. Good luck.

adriann255 · 2021-06-03T11:19:07+00:00

In my experience...yes and no. i both had some girlfriends and also hit rock bottom in terms of dating when I wasn't conscious about my situation. I think what matters more, focused or not, is being the best version of yourself 24/7 and having good communication skills.

Then again, I have friends who don't care at all and they all say "You'll meet her eventually, you don't need to try.". They are proud of not having any experience at age 23.

Title	If you stop thinking about girls and focus on doing your own thing, could that end up leading you to actually getting girls?
Author	Spikael_Michael
Upvotes	6
Comments	14
Date	June 1, 2021 4:32 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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