When gaming women, you must constantly assume the most positive facts about the world, even if they may not be true. This means you must think, act, and hopefully FEEL as if the positive assumption is true, even if your rational brain does not really think it is true. When you walk into a bar you must assume that the hottest girl thinks of you as her dream guy and is desperate to fuck your brains out. If you see a beautiful woman surrounded by ten men you should assume they are all her gay brothers who want her to meet a nice stranger and go home with him. If you see three women getting into an Uber you should assume they will change their mind about going home if you say hi to them. If you are talking to a woman and she seems uninterested you must assume that she is just shy and is actually excited to meet you. Those are extreme examples, but they illustrate my broader point: always assume the most positive thought until the facts are definitively shown to be otherwise. Pick up artists often say “assume attraction” but I like to broad that to say “assume the positive about everything.”

Of course, the most positive assumption is often not true, but because you evolved to be irrationally negative it is true much more often than you think it is. Even if the positive assumption is true 10% of the time, that is 10% more opportunities you would have capitalized on than if you had made a negative assumption. In my years of doing this, I have blown tons of amazing opportunities because of my negative assumptions. I would assume a woman was too hot for me only to see her go home with a guy much uglier than me (this happened many times). I would assume a woman would not think I was her type only to later find out she had a thing for brown guys. I have also seen tons of impressive, athletic, tall, good looking guys completely lose confidence because they made one negative assumption about the woman or the situation.. On the other hand, I have also had great success by assuming the best even when my rational mind thought I was being overly positive. I am still amazed at some of the women I have pulled because I would have never guessed they would be into me and I only approached them because I was making the positive assumption. Women are complicated and unique creatures and even though they share some similarities, you should not assume they do not like you. Women will consistently amaze you with how they act differently than they image they appear to project.

You must assume the positive outcome because your subconscious mind evolved to constantly assume the worst-case scenario to keep you safe from threats. To put it another way, your default assumptions are almost always irrationally negative, so you must counteract it with irrationally positive assumptions. There is no downside to positive assumptions. If you assume that Halle Berry wants to fuck your brains out and she shoots you down when you approach her, you can at least learn something from the interaction. The only bad thing that could conceivably happen if you approach a woman is that her boyfriend or husband will come try to fight you, but that happens extremely rarely (and usually only if you act like a douche).

For the same reason, if a negative thought pops into your head, you can often defeat it with a countervailing thought. For example, if you see a really classy, well-dressed women your subconscious mind might immediately make an excuse and say “you should not approach her because she is clearly into rich guys and you are not rich enough.” In that moment, the best way to overcome that negative thought is to tell yourself “I am the richest man in the world and she would be lucky to even talk to me.” Now, that may sound silly and delusional, but again, sometimes the only way you can defeat irrational negativity is with irrational positivity.

Your anxiety circuit is always working, so when you squash a negative thought, your subconscious mind will often try to find another threat to make you freak out about and generate another negative thought. You can then defeat that thought with a countervailing thought. Your subconscious mind might say “ok, you may be rich enough but she looks like she is here with her friends.” You can then respond to your subconscious mind “even if she is with here with her friends, she doesn’t like them and would rather talk to me.” Again, you are being delusional, and she may prefer to hang out with her friends than talk to you, but sometimes this delusional thought is the only thing that can snap you out of your rut.

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