This is a bad habit of mine for as long as I can remember, probably validation-seeking, but I have a question I already know the answer to.

Spinning plates last year, met a girl and plated her around September. As Patrice O'Neal said, she "hung around" until I officially promoted her a couple months ago.

Then, trouble at work. I was essentially squeezed out of my company by a higher-up who had it out for me, but not without getting myself a very nice severance that will last me months and months while I get a new position somewhere else. However, this all happened rather fast, and gave me a shock to my system I hadn't felt in a while, and I promptly without thinking used my girl for emotional support, I told her my fucking problems.

Very shortly after that, her attention waned, sex became less enthusiastic on her part, she even had the balls to not respond if I reached out a couple times. Our roles have basically flip-flopped, and I find myself caring more.

It's been a couple days no-contact, and she's still messaging me, but I'm not sure how to engage. I would like to still fuck with her, but I worry (and honestly believe) that I fucked this up, and that her attraction could only be saved by me focusing on myself and not giving her very much of my attention or time. Meanwhile I'm talking to other women, flirting, getting #'s, killing it in the gym, and so on.

I feel it in my gut, I broke a cardinal rule, I depended on a bitch, and I see the results.