I don't speak to women at all...

camper182 · 2015-05-21T21:22:31+00:00

You doubt there's help for you? So you're giving up?

Lightwarrior358 · 2015-05-21T22:00:43+00:00

My friend, from my perspective there is notching wrong with being serious. I even belief that a man that is more serene and doesn't talk much will have more succes than a men that is hyperactive and seeks for her attention. Because there is no mystery, that type of guy play's an open book and so you become most of the time her best friend. You don't have that problem. From the other hand if you bring that thought energy from: "I can't, I'm not able, I'm shouldn't ect." she will feel your insecurity.. and that is the true reason why women will avoid you. Not because of your looks allot of you will think I'm crazy but they don't really care about your appearance. The only care about how you use your appearance and if you belief in your own existence. But by your last sentence I come to belief that you do not. Find a way to accept your current situation by seeing the potential in your current situation. But don't give up because of your past. The reason why you'r still in that energy from your past is because you probably difine yourself by your past expirences but that is not who you are so let it go and define yourself by the future expirences you want to have instead. If you want to know more, just ask..

ScepticalProphet · 2015-05-22T06:06:54+00:00

First, don't chat to girls on Facebook. First of all, chatting idly to a girl is not attractive unless you already have a very very deep rapport with her. Second of all, I hope you're not just chatting to randoms on FB. That's weird and creepy.

You're a programmer so you should know certain languages follow certain logic and have methodologies that, depending on variables, lead to different outcomes. Attraction is the same thing. You can learn how to be attractive.

If you're not naturally attractive, you may never learn enough to compete with the top 1% but there's no doubt you can add 2-3 points to your score out of 10.

Dymatizeee · 2015-05-22T00:59:51+00:00

Hey man, don't think that way. You're tall and you lift, so you already pass the physical aspect that women are looking for.

Its never too late to seek women. You lack experience? To get good at anything, you MUST attempt to do it. For example, not everyone is a prodigy when it comes to playing the guitar. They lacked experience initially but they practiced and practiced. Just like that, you can do the same with girls. All it takes is the first step.

recyclablebantha · 2015-05-22T12:35:20+00:00

Yes, I am a bit shy, and yes, I am even afraid of them.....

Listen to yourself. Women are just people.

and yes I have my so called "reasons" for it... Many women made fun of me, many screwed me up in many ways, of course, I allowed it...

It's not that you allowed it at the time. You had no control over what they did.

It's that you're allowing YOURSELF to hold onto all that stuff from the past and you're allowing it to take away your present and your future.

Now, I know how a Facebook chat will go-on on FB, which 99.99% ends up me being blocked by Her.

You're leaving so much out here. So what are we possibly supposed to make of this? We have many conversations with people on FB and normally, such conversations don't lead to us being blocked. So what's different here? You tell us. The result tells us nothing. We need context. For starters:

What kinds of things do you say in these chats?
Do you know these girls before hand?

I am afraid to approach, not because of rejection itself, but because I know I lack a lots of expirence and I'm already late in seeking women.

No, this is fear of rejection. You think you'll fail because you lack experience. Which is also making excuses. Also, unless you're in your 30s or 40s, you're not "late in seeking women. And even if you were, that wouldn't matter anymore than you allow.

I am a very serious guy,

Irrelevant, except that you're CHOOSING to take on an attitude that makes you brittle and fragile. People who can soften up and find humor in life, are more flexible. I mean look at yourself. You're all bent out of shape over stuff that people did in the past, and you're pushing away people in the present.

No women look at me as a nice thing to see, but rather as a man who must be avoided.

This is a by-product of your CHOSEN attitude, not your appearance. Many girls I know are turned on by a guy who's big and built..

I doubt there's help for me.

There there won't be. Until you allow it.

recyclablebantha · 2015-05-22T13:13:05+00:00

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Title	I don't speak to women at all...
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Date	May 21, 2015 7:18 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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