Hi guys,

I'm using some things here that kind of developed in a long Facebook chat with Mystery, so I gotta give him credits here, although what I have to tell you about this does not necessarily represent Mysterys view on things.

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First about all, what exactly is Charisma, and why is there so much confusion about it?

Charisma, or more exactly, character imprints (the depth psychology term for it) is a human property that people develop naturally. So in a way, this is what real naturals (not "natural game" here, but real naturals) use to attract and seduce women. There is a lot of confusion and misleading information about how naturals get there, and let me just say that it's a bit more complicated than having a good father figure or growing up with a muscular body. Naturals also go through a certain phase where they struggle with their sexuality and "setting free" these traits, but this usually happens so early on that for many people, the memories about this are basically lost somewhere along the way.

So I want more Charisma, what do I do?

It is of course very tempting to think like that, yet a character imprint is called an imprint for a reason. So for most people, from a certain point on in their life, their charisma is a fixed constant and they can only be "taught" to have more natural charisma by putting up with inducing such severe psychological damage and struggle that it is not even remotely worth it (trust me on that thing). There are some cases where some of this natural development is somewhat stuck, which usually means they have to cope with a healable form of severe mental illness until they "get there", but knowing this and the details usually does not really help them to get out of this. If you suffer severe mental issues and think it might be related to that, please consult your therapist and not a seduction forum or some pickup artists.

Besides that, many of the details of the process where people naturally develop this charisma are a taboo topic even among psychologists and psychiatrists, because you too easily risk to send someone down the road I mentioned above, and cause severe psychological damage.

So as long as you don't suffer severe mental illness, the bad news is that you usually have a potion of natural charisma that mother nature endowed you with, and you can't do much about it without things really going down the drain for you, and if you have such an illness, you're better off with consulting your therapist about it than trying to find a solution on a pickup forum

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So where's even my perspective, and what does that really have to do with pickup?

There is quite a perspective for you, insofar that the reality here is that at the end of the day, everyone is at least a "small real natural", you really need to have at least a littlebit of this "raw attraction" for females, or you would be asexual overall. So the good news is, if you know it or not, you have some of it or you wouldn't desire women. And charisma has, for like 95% of all females (the rest is visually triggerable like us guys) a function as a sexual trigger, or an attraction trigger, like for us guys usually the visual cues we receive from women.

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So if I have what I have, and can't change much about it, why are we even talking about it so much and still, what does it have to do with pickup?

Well first we are talking about it so much because it triggers women, of course, like visual aspects usually trigger us guys, and secondly, we talk so much about it because most guys are totally lost about putting it to a good use, and also because if you take a closer look at whats really going on there, it is very much relevant for people who use learned skillsets to attract women. Let me explain it a little in depth. Ready?

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Yeah, uhm... shoot.

Okay first and foremost, women are not just sexually triggerable by your charisma, they also have a verification mechanism (the thing us guys don't really have for the visual cues) that makes them get terribly turned off if it detects that a guy is trying to fake a charisma he does not posses (i.e. does things that are totally unaligned with his "real personality" and also his "real sexuality"), and that's a highly effective (and in pickup oftentimes happening) way to quickly get blown out of set, or to catch a really smackin' rejection.

So what you can learn from this, is that you a) need to use a skillset that fits your charisma, your personality, that well that it's basically natural for a person like you to behave like that, if you are currently learning and practicing such a skillset or not, that you need to b) explore your own form of charisma better (it can take many forms) to figure out better how to use that part of your personality to induce raw attraction if needed and c) that if you learn all this theory, you need to adapt it to your natural personality as good as you can or it won't work or even terribly backfire.

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For Pickup Coaches:

I can just tell you guys that you run into the question why it is that some things stick with a certain student, while some things don't, and even while the things that didn't stick, did stick with other students. The answer is simple, it won't really work out if it doesn't really fit what's already there on behalf of the student, so one student can make one of your teachings work while the other can't. And while it is, for the coaches, the much harder and more sophisticated road, the by far best thing you can do for your student, is custom fit your teachings for them. This is a strong appeal for client centric coaching in seduction and pickup. Even if you teach generic material, I strongly recommend to include some of this client centric coaching and include sessions where you make everything fit to the natural dispositions of the student. This will help tremendously with "making it stick" and also enable the students to go through a much quicker and long-term lasting learning curve. For any further questions, I recommend you to consult the corresponding factbooks about client-centric coaching techniques.

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Okay, so how do I even recognize a character imprint in me?

Well the usual characteristics of one of those is that it a) enables you to completely delegate a thinking process to the unconscious, so that the conclusions basically just pop up on your mind on their own, b) It also acts as a so-called "alpha trait", so that if you are the guy who can solve a given situation effortlessly, you can, in this situation, also easily take over the leading role, deal with the responsibility and even "bite away" the competition and c) like mentioned above, it also acts as the raw form of sexual attraction for the females.

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So... wtf?

Look, the issues here are that most guys do not know what they're dealing with when it comes to the "raw way" of igniting desire in females, so they make many mistakes with it. They try to "be someone they're not" to seduce women, and the result they get is rejection, plain and simple. Also, society will not hesitate to teach you all kinds of bullshit about it, well knowing that most guys have no idea what "the woman desires" if you want so, and will also not hesitate to sell you all sorts of bullshit or make you do all kinds of idiotic things because you have no idea about what's really the matter of fact.

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Let me say at this point that its not as fatalistic as it might sound, you can still easily learn seduction and pickup skills and improve in this area, you just should never deny your natural personality and sexuality in favor of a fancy technique or structure. Also, if you don't find coaches that can custom fit all this to your personality, you need to do that on your own, which is quite some work. The first step is knowing that you need to do this. Besides that, you need to get to a lot of knowledge about yourself in this anyway. So don't expect it to be a winning move to imitate, say Tyler or Mystery from the getgo. Rather you need to reshape this material until it is a decent fit to who you naturally are.

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Never play someone you're not. Never sacrifice your natural personality to archive results with women. This will backfire. I repeat, backfire. Instead of aligning yourself to pickup, align pickup to yourself. Develop your own pickup style over time. This is how to make it work for you. Besides that, exposure!!!

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TLDR: You need to figure your own "charisma" which is usually a fixed constant, and then adapt your pickup skills and theory to what's there, to the personality you have, or you will get lot's of blowouts and just suck :)