How do you deal with a male that is beneath you that is trying to make fun of you in front of others?

xfontaine · 2020-07-19T16:05:31+00:00

you gotta let these dudes know who you are, let him have it

scarrax · 2020-07-19T17:21:59+00:00

In the vast majority of cases laugh it off, but if you have a chance for a very witty comeback then take it.

d_thstroke · 2020-07-19T18:09:05+00:00

1 . smile, while giving him a roast 2. ask him to explain what he's saying. would only work with a calm, slow and confident tone of voice

DeLaine23 · 2020-07-19T19:17:48+00:00

To weigh in - is he doing this because you're both interested in the same girl, like a competitive thing? Or is he showing off in front of women in general?

If it's just showing off in front of people in general, I would laugh it off and joke back. You know your capabilities and it hardly matters if he likes to get a dig in as long as it's not actually annoying you. If it is, I'd say stop the conversation and point that out in some way; roasting him just invites retaliation. ("Seriously? You don't think you're pushing the joke a little far?" Might work, and it puts you into the role of the more calm and rational person).

If he's doing it to specifically put you down in front of someone you both like, I would jump to establishing yourself as the more calm and rational person. It kind of depends on how he's pushing you. Can we get an example of something recent in order to give better advice? What is he 'roasting' you about?

Though, this is just my personal opinion. Depends on your group of friends too, and how you interact with each other.

modernsaiyan · 2020-07-19T21:51:43+00:00

Depends on how tight you guys are.

If that’s your boy then it’s probably them just projecting their own personal insecurities - if you’re close, pull him aside and have a 1 to 1 before the event “bro in gunna be real with you for a sec-“

If he’s just part of your friend circle you want to use your bigger and more powerful frame to cancel his out, and make him look immature.

He says: “at least I’m not an idiot” (gestures at you)

Instead of trying to out-wit him, you look at him with a sarcastic, fed up look and say : “really... again with the insults...?”

Then roll your eyes sarcastically like you cba dealing with a toddler and avoid eye contact for a sec.

Don’t address it any further and continue with whatever you’re doing.

It’s all in the delivery. If you’re genuinely fed up with him and give off that energy, people will be able to feel it’s genuine & side with you.

Had the same thing happen all the time with a (former) friend, the group you’re with will start to side with you - since you come off more level headed & mature.

TLDR: Use your looks/ size difference to your advantage. Use your halo effect to shed a light on his immaturity 😉🤡

WellEvan · 2020-07-19T16:19:02+00:00

You should explain to them why it bothers you and ask them to stop.

There's no reason to escalate if they are your friend as you say. Dudes should be bros.

Imagine going from 0-100 because someone roasted you..... Youd only be affirming whatever they said

2020-07-19T21:04:07+00:00

You turn to the girl, and you say 'suddenly a girl arrives and he's trynna make himself look good, don't worry about him' just completely disarm the fella with wit and a bit of light flirting

okabekudo · 2020-07-20T22:10:53+00:00

Dude seriously just roast him back. Getting angry over such things only show that you have a fragile ego. Roasting is fun as hell.

Title	How do you deal with a male that is beneath you that is trying to make fun of you in front of others?
Author	onenutnovember
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	July 19, 2020 4:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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