Day 10

(Side note success: that girl that iced me on day 5 came over the other night, and…she didn’t ice me this time. She did try. Talk about shit test to the end—She’s sitting on me in just panties and still telling me that my finger being in her was “inappropriate.” Basically, as per protocol, I just agreed with her and kept going. It went well. My favorite part of the story, however, is not about the sex: Her phone kept ringing after she fell asleep. I was worried it was someone who was trying frantically to find her, so I picked up. “Hello?” “Who the fuck is this?” said the guy on the other end. Hmm… worried it was a crazed ex, I said simply “just a friend” and hung up. The phone continued to ring all night, and I eventually threw it outside the room (couldn’t figure out how to change volume). Next morning find out it was her brother. And when I drop her off at her car at the bar where she left it, her father comes out of nowhere, writing down my car tag number. I didn’t know who he was, assumed he was a valet. So I looked at him puzzled. “Get the hell out ofhere!” he yelled. Haha it made me feel dirty. And awesome.) Anyway, on to day 10

Day 10 is about disqualification, basically distinguishing yourself from other men by intentionally taking yourself out of the picture for the woman. You are giving the impression you are not interested, or that she should not be interested, or that something is to keep you from actually hitting on your mark, thereby making her want you more.
So let’s do the education bit. There are lots of ways to disqualify, including but not limited to the following:

  1. Save her from you “you should talk to a nice boy like that guy over there.” “you can’t handle me”

  2. Give self monetary value “Hands off the merchandise”

  3. Put in friend zone “You’re like the little sister I never had”

  4. Go over top- “Wooow you must be the smartest girl in all the land”

  5. Reverse roles (a favorite of mine) “quit trying to get me drunk!” “I know you’re just trying to seduce me”

  6. Employ her- offer her a role as your assistant, than fire her

  7. Be snobby- “yea, ok… whatever!”

  8. Be authoritative “you’ve earned yourself detention missy.” “no speaking privileges for 5 minutes”

  9. Make her compete “I’ll just go talk to more interesting girls over there”

  10. Challenge her “you’re just not adventurous enough for my needs”

The challenge for the Day was to approach 3 people cold and disqualify them. I have not had a lot of time, and in the interest of getting to read another day before new years, I am going to show you this challenge in a very different way.

I am also on OKCupid, bc, why not, right? It’s an easy way to increase the pool. In the spirit of this challenge, I found a hottie and went right on with it. the following transcription will contain innumerable disqualifiers

Me: you’re pretty cute, but are you interesting too..? (push-pull)

Her: Thanks. Not so bad yourself?

Her: Sorry for the ? Didn’t mean that lol

Me: pretty quick response time. Geez give me some space, I just met you! Lol (reverse roles)

Her: Lmfao I just got on you just got lucky!

Me: Not yet I haven’t. And you don’t have to lie to me. Trust is very important to me in a relationship.

Me: Forgot an lol somewhere. (I was worried the one before came off more serious than humorous)

Her: Yes it is very important but I’m not lying

Me: Haha alright, then I’ll trust you this time. You should give me your number so we can continue this by text. I don’t come on this site very often.

Her: Sure #######

On phone now:

Me: So are you in the habit of giving your number out to strangers? 

Her: No I am definitely not

Me: Well then I’m flattered, I’m Misterease btw

Her: You better be! :P Hello Misterease, that’s a nice name. I’m GIRL.

Me:hi GIRL! Now we’re not strangers. So whatcha doin?

Her: Yes. I am knitting lol. How about you?

Me:Knitting?! Lol you have grandkids too? I am on my way out to join some friends downtown (not really, but social proof)

Her: lol! Oh hush its not just a granny thing (qualifying heself). Sounds fun.

Me: yea should be, warming up for new years tomorrow! You have big plans for it?

SKIPPING a bunch….

Me: lol you’ll have to teach me this art (regarding knitting. Note future projection). Whatcha making?

Her: Not a problem if your willing to learn. Right now I’m making a beanie

Me: I’m always willing to learn, though youll have to bear with me, I don’t have much sewing experience. Lol

Her: It is ok, it’s actually quite easy especially with my cheating tool I use, it’s called a loom, makes it like 10 billion times easier and faster

Me: Lol you are adorable. I go online just looking for a girl making sexy faces, and when I find one, it turns out she’s a spinster. With a loom. You’re not a crazy person right?

Her: LOL! Yes I am extremely crazy but your ok, so far at least, your on my good side, but beware you don’t want to jump on over to that bad side lol!

Me: well now I know not to walk alone with you in dark alleys! I’m worried…I can get in trouble with such innocent girls. What kind of things would land me on your bad side? (saving her from me, )

Her: Haha yea that probably wouldn’t be such a bright idea. Well for one, be any of those things I listed in my profile XD

Me: Haha if I remember, that included being old, being young, being a douche, or sending you naked pics. Lol I can probably avoid those.

Her: Then you are in the clear

NEXT morning:

Me: Haha whew, I was worried. How are you going to spend your last hours of 2012?! (outcome-independent)

This ENTIRE interaction, except for the next morning’s text, happened within a 6 hour period.

I recognize this is not the three real-world experiences the challenge looked for. However, I think this one conversation is more informative for people reading it, AND I’m looking more to get technique out of this than confidence. The disqualifying is one of my favorite techniques anyway. So enjoy that. Day 11 soon perhaps. Where I can use the technique in day 10 anyway, so I won’t have missed anything.