Hi Seddit.
I’m a person who enjoys social interaction, the dynamics of everyday encounters and the quest for an ever-developing inner and outer disposition. As far as game goes, I have been active for a while. My introduction to it is probably similar to most of yours, through Neil Strauss. My friends and I delight in the discussion of social dynamics, and of course seduction. While i don't claim to be a pro, these are some ideas I wanted to put into words. I wanted to write on a topic which goes largely untouched on the reading material available for the development of PUA’s young and old, and that is the idea absolute sincerity.

I’m sure you’re all familiar, at least a little, with the concept of inner game. Well specifically, it is my belief that the thing missing is this critical concept of being absolutely sincere. This is a concept my friends and I developed through discussion, understably this may have already been elaborated on, but these are my thoughts none the less.

Break down of this post: I’m going to run you through two ideas which are adjacent: By adjacent I mean that they happen next to each other and work best when they happen together.

To have one or both as a part of the mind frame you carry has helped me in every aspect of my life and right now I am applying it to game. I do not intend on elaborating more on the implementation of this mind frame, and less on its application within a particular social dynamic.

Introduction: I understand that while you’re at the bar, maybe your developing your skills trying to get over that little bit of approach anxiety, and you’re scoping out the place looking for your potential mate for the night. There are undoubtedly a MILLION things going through your head. Things like “I COULD talk to her, but there are so many girls here I’m just going to move on for now” or “I wish I could talk to that one”. Well these are moment s of self-realization, moments where you can say to yourself “YOU PUSSYCAT”, than you man up and you go talk to her.

That brings me to scenario one: You had it in you all along to ATLEAST go open this set, talk to that girl, even if it was just to say hello, even if you CRASH AND BURN, it should be exciting. THAT is sincerity to your self. You’ve done yourself the justice of being sincere (You wanted to talk to her, so you did, who cares about the outcome, there’s always another opportunity.)
What was the out come of scenario one: You did it! You approached, maybe you got the number, maybe you all you were looking for is the recognition of your existence with a “hello” back. Doesn’t matter. The excitement is in the thrill of walking up, the thrill of saying hello, the thrill of being rejected. But its being able to have it in you to BE SINCERE WITH YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF YOURSELF. Being able to say I DID WHAT I SET OUT TO DO IN SOME SMALL OR BIG WAY WITHOUT PUTTING TO MUCH EMPHASIS ON THE OUTCOME.

Being able to sincerely be happy with progress, however big or small is the key to social success.

Now the adjacent scenario: lets say you’re sincere with your expectations of yourself, you identifiy that this approach is fun and that shes just a human, like you, and you go for it.

You might be using canned openers, you might be using material you’ve used a million times, you might just walk up with nothing planned and say the first thing you think of.. What ever the method, lets say you’re into conversation.

Try to be sincerely interested in what this person in saying. Even if it is the most mundane topic… May be shes an accountant and you switched out of business school because you HATE ACCOUNTING that much, if you can find something to be sincerely interested in it makes the conversation that much easier and not to mention enjoyable.

Lets move away from this girl you’ve begun to talk and break down sincere interest: What happens when you’re actually interested in something? You begin to ask questions about it, you begin to ask questions about the answers you’ve received. You start thinking about things abstractly, you identify points of further interest, and you can allow yourself to be wrapped up in a topic or a field of study. You pay attention to detail, looking for incongruences in the information you’ve learned and you begin to draw your own conclusions. This is how you for opinions and ideas. This is the basis of being interesting.

It is interesting to be interested.

Find an aspect of a topic, however small, and allow yourself to become sincerely interested in it.

Moving back to the babes: I’m not saying you ask this girl to run an information session about her life, Do not give her all the attention in the room as if she’s all that matters, and for heavens sakes don’t bog her down with question after question. This is internal, and is intended to be used with game tactics. Still use your negs, still ask for opinions, but be thinking critically, learn all you can.
What im saying is that you have to be extremely mindful of the personal information that they are giving you. Through all the seemingly uninteresting fluff that girls (and people in general) talk about, she (or they) could be revealing some deep shit here. People can pick up on the vibe you’re sending if you really don’t care, maybe not right away, but over time- absolutely.

Offering your insight to others: Give people the opportunity of learning and experiencing your ideas while not offering them to freely. If you offer your ideas with ease to any one who will listen than you devalue the idea itself. Your ideas belong to you, they’re apart of you, and you must be willing to share them with people who will value them. If they value your ideas, they will value who you are and than the ladies will value your excellence between the sheets.

Elaboration: It is so easy to get caught up in the game, the ebb and flow of social interaction and the vanity of social dynamic. Be it pick-up, breaking into a new social circle, or another facet of interaction, it is important to remember exactly why you’re doing it: Fun, because you care about others, because you want to experience new things, because it is exciting, because it feels good to feel loved (platonically or romantically), Because it feels good to be desired by others. At the root of all this is sincerity to your self and being able to be sincerely interested in what others are interested.

The result: Every time you meet someone new it’s a new and exciting experience. If you have adopted this correctly, every interaction is one of learning and self-development. Every interaction leaves you excited for the next, and thinking about the concepts and ideas of the last.

You are immediately higher value because you value your self and the ideas of others..

I wanted to post this for the process of just typing it out and evaluating my own perceptive. I’m sure I’ve incorporated the ideas of many other people, and I do not mean to plagiarize if I have. Hopefully you folks have some insights that I have yet to address, things to add and things to refute.

What do you think Reddit? Please discuss!