Stepping out of friends with benefits zone

TheBetterManZA · 2017-02-07T17:51:30+00:00

Basically if a woman sleeps with you enough times, chances are she will start to fall for you. Just give her enough orgasms and keep it cool and let nature do the rest.

MindsEvolve · 2017-02-07T19:30:37+00:00

It sounds like she likes the idea of fooling around, but isn't looking for ANY pressure right now. She doesn't sound like someone I'd personally want a relationship with, at least in the current state she's in. If you're saying that you had a problem being a needy, then I'm guessing that's you're after a relationship. You really have to go with a no-pressure approach here, and one of the best ways to do that is to get back to focusing on other girls. Why should she try to tie you down right now if you currently don't have any other options? It's going to help with the neediness too.

PM if you need some more guidance on this.

xrispy7 · 2017-02-07T21:08:22+00:00

It sounds like you want her to be your girlfriend, not just a fuckbuddy.

Remember that song? "Girls just want to have fun" That's basically this girl in a nutshell. You played it right, Just keep inviting her over for "Beer and games" or switch it up a bit, if you keep having sex making her cum there is literally a chemical telling her "THIS IS GOOD". Don't GET CLINGY! Make sure there are 2-3 days where you are not talking and see if she texts you instead. THIS IS IMPORTANT. If a girl senses 1 ounce of neediness she will become unattracted. The reason why is evolutionary, she want the strongest man (hence why she is dating the other guy too) really women back in the day used to fuck 5 guys to see who's sperm wins. So you simply need to remain the cool, fun fuck buddy. I did this with a girl for 6 months at the end she started falling for me and asked "So you seem like you don't want any serious relationship" I told her no and we parted ways. If you DO want a serious relationship, all it takes is a few months of fucking and you are good.

Also, try to connect with her on a more intimate level aka share stories of your childhood, or past, interests things you love/are passionate about but NEVER EVER EVER say: "So let's get serious" Don't let her logical mind think about the fact you two are getting more serious.

123deoliveira5 · 2017-02-07T17:52:41+00:00

thanks man! but our hookup was pretty hardcore last night, we could have had sex if we wanted so i don't know if text her to make her comfortable or what

fitnessfreak6 · 2017-02-07T17:23:34+00:00

Hookup with her a few more times. To be FWB or a fuckbuddy, you'd just have sex with her and not hang out together and do the other relationship stuff.

The day after you have sex with her for the first time: you should text her someone short and fun. You can mention that whatever happened was fun.

To step out of the FWB 'zone', you need to know the differences. Most guys would love FWB type of setting but I can understand that you want more.

If you want FWB: Invite her to your place to "watch a movie" or "chill". You have sex. She leaves / you make her leave after the sex.

If you want more than FWB: Go grab a coffee/drink, talk for a while then have sex. After the sex, let her know that it's completely okay if she wants to spend the night here. If she sleeps at your place: go for breakfast together the next morning before parting your ways. If you do this then it won't be just FWB. People who are fuckbuddies DO NOT sleep in and go for breakfast together - they leave after having sex.

In the end, you cannot completely control her emotions. If she doesn't fall for you then cut her off if you want something more as you'll end up hurting yourself. However, most women end up falling for a guy if they have casual sex with them multiple times + hang out together and enjoy having conversations.

All the best :)

Title	Stepping out of friends with benefits zone
Author	123deoliveira5
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	February 7, 2017 5:00 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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