Is it much harder to get girls if you don't really have any friends?

AtlasAtlasAtlas · 2016-04-10T08:46:43+00:00

way harder because you have a lower social standing.

2016-04-10T10:03:25+00:00

Friends are good ways to meet new people, provide social proof, give you feedback. They definitely make it easier.

It's also easier to make friends than pickup girls, so I recommend it as a starting point, if you aren't heavy on the social skills already.

Or do both.

I don't recommend ignoring the friends part and solely doing pickup. Friends are good things to have.

Xane3x · 2016-04-10T06:17:34+00:00

Not at all, in fact you'll be making friends in the process! It's a win win. While trying to get laid you can enter her realm, being able to access her friends and her friends of friends etc. It's a chain reaction!

2016-04-10T06:17:32+00:00

Yeah kinda

Megachillx · 2016-04-10T14:12:43+00:00

I believe the in group and out group bias are real.

Lets say you're in college and you approach and chat up a girl in your study group, you will have a lot more common ground and she will be a lot more receptive to you than some random girl on the street.

Not saying that you won't be successful in both, but it's a lot easier to connect with girls in your social group than cold approaching. I call it the 'in-group bias'.

But if you don't have any friends, then go out and get friends. This will require money, so you should have some extra money to go out and do things. Do a martial art, you will never have a stronger friendship with people than the people you train with. Get involved in a dance class, a sport (they have adult football/tennis groups), if you're more of the geeky type, get in boardgaming groups on meetup or video game groups.

Once you get in that group, be that friendly guy that talks to everyone. Just talk about that activity you're doing and why they got into it and talk about them. They will open up and be cool with you. You can meet girls in these groups that have similar interests with you and you can form solid relationships.

That direction is a lot easier than going out to malls and bars solo to get girls. I still love cold approaching though, on days I don't have anything to do, but it's a lot harder.

Title	Is it much harder to get girls if you don't really have any friends?
Author	theabstractpoet
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	April 10, 2016 5:31 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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