The day was pretty haphazard from the start. Me and two friends met at my place for some drinking and I think the lonely feeling of there only being three of us (and we wanted a party) marred the place we were at when we went downtown too much.

So we get downtown and hit the first bar. It was packed. We could barely move around and it was overwhelming for us. It took some effort not to withdraw into my shell. I saw some people I know, but I was way too repressed to up my state from the interactions. I ended up talking with a girl I know. I did the regular. A lot of negging and such, but I didn't get physical at all. I was so cold emotionally still that I couldn't up her emotions well. I was going through the motions but the congruence was completely missing. Eventually we excused ourselves and left. And the night didn't get better. I hit a club after and did some dancing, but I met my cousins there. They monopolized my attention while my friends left and, even though I saw girls I should have been talking to, I didn't because I was too much of a pussy to do it in front of my cousins. I think the biggest mistake I made though was going to a bar after instead of another club. What emotion I'd built up seeped out and I became my relaxed self. I talked to a few girls after that and it was like facing a block. I was an ok guy but it was like I was day-gaming them. It just didn't fit the location! I then got stuck in a line for a club to make things worse and at that point I just gave up. It was late. The clubs were closing in an hour and I saw this wasn't going anywhere. So here I am after a shitty night all alone and bummed out.

Key points:

  • The night doesn't have to start well, but if you feel scarcity building, just go downtown! Fuck the pre-party because you'll get stuck on that level!!!

  • Bars are for the start and the end. NEVER let your feeling drop. Always build it.

  • If you're going by the social circle rule (a la RSDLuke), make sure that those you're interacting with are boosting you and not pulling you down. Be curt to those that you don't think will help you overall. You can't afford anything but the best if you're already limping.

  • Talk to girls. I fucking sucked tonight and even then I didn't have any experience that had that 'oh no it's all over' negative feeling that we all dread and think is right around the corner when approaching. I had a girl nearly beat the shit out of my friend. I had a girl tell me I fucking sucked and needed to get over myself (I'm naturally cocky, funny) and I had a girl tell me I needed to shave that sorry excuse of a beard I had (I just started growing it out!!! D':) and even then it didn't bring me down because I didn't dwell on it. It incredible that the next time I go out it will be thinking that a girl might go that far on me and I wont care at all. This is all about 'you vs you' and I defeated myself this time and none of the girls helped with that.

So what do you guys do when you're having an off night? How do you get yourselves up and ready to go? What's the best way to go when you're just not feeling the night? Is it possible to spin it into a new method?

As always, I'd appreciate any kind of discussion.