Honestly it's really been a journey for me, when I look back at myself early on in terms of my thinking of sex, women and game it's really quite amazing how stupid I was. If I had been smarter earlier, I would have seen that the same qualities that make a girl want to have sex with you overlap with just being a man / adult in general, therefore if you make the sole goal of every interaction to have SECKS you are going to just probably seem more immature. it's more subtle, yet a much more focused energy than you might think.

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for the underdog hardcase newbie with 2 notches in his bedpost at 24, it's a far greater challenge, because in a way, you have to do more extreme shit than the natural or "popular guy" in order to let people know you are the real deal. i've really had to man the fuck up and let my behavior and actions speak more than my words or my looks....i'm blessed / cursed with youthful looks and i get shit tested about them all the time....guys think i'm a freshman, girls joke with me and ask if i'm 12, but it's usually in a smiley way and i have received flirty attention from women. as defense against this i set up an internal monologue / mantra...

"i am a youthful looking 24 year old man, who has the body and strength of a young man and works for what he wants. some may perceive my looks as immature, but i know that it will only become a better thing as time goes by and there is no point in procrastinating on action so i might as well own my body. i've held dozens of shitty jobs and endured more pain - financial, labor, romantic, emotional, and psychological - than these fucking kids coming straight off of their parents' money. i'm not easily deterred by men who act overly dominant because those men who can not be tenderly aggressive have lost part of the essence of a real man's behavior"

basically, more importantly than rationalize, get inside your own SOUL and FEEL your own worth and the irrelevance of all of this other bullshit. it's helped me be in touch with myself at a time when i felt my soul was my strongest asset, as it should be. prove your value, to yourself, in ways that are irrelevant of a girl's opinion. these are the absolutes and will ultimately draw them to you

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