How do deal with negative people? Especially when they're friends with you.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2013-11-18T00:54:48+00:00

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kingcal · 2013-11-18T03:24:33+00:00

Ignore him. If he starts antagonizing you, don't even look at him. Continue having a friendly conversation with someone else next to you.

I'd suggest talking with your friends and discussing how his presence makes you feel. I have a hard time believing someone this negative doesn't get on everyone else's nerves as well.

2013-11-18T05:43:02+00:00

Just minimise any contact with him and brush him off. The rest of your friends shouldn't care if they understand what he's like. If he tries to fuck you up when you're gaming, just stop for a second, give him a condescending look and say something like 'really?'or 'are you done?' then smile at the girl and keep doing your thing. It should just make him look like an irritating kid.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2013-11-18T06:18:21+00:00

Alright this is what you do. First you need to make sure your friends have your back. If they are close friends with this guy for whatever reason you can't stop them from hanging out with him and inviting both of you guys to events. It really depends on how much your friends are willing to tolerate this guy's crap. Whatever the case just make sure your friends care about you. If they invite you to hang outs where this guy is always there they'll still talk to you, chill with you and be good pals if they care about you. That being said just go to these hang outs and only talk to those friends.

Completely ignore the other guy. Don't joke around with him, don't even look at his direction, if he says something just talk to another guy nearby. If he disrespects you in front of your friends I would just agree and amplify it to an except if he's trying to make a joke. That or just completely ignore it and talk to someone else.

There's literally nothing he can do to phase you man. You can only let him mess with you if you get offended. The ONLY thing he can do that would affect you is physically harm you, in which case you beat the shit out of him and get your friends to help with that as well. Good luck

sedditdee · 2013-11-18T01:02:51+00:00

OwnTheDay wrote: This guy has done some really serious shit to piss me off before, and really disrespected me in front of my friends.

Stop being afraid of him, and accept what happens after that.

If your friends have your back, consolidate your friendships with them while excluding the jerk. Every time the jerk steps up to you, clown him in front of your friends. Allow it to escalate. Your friends will decide how far things go. If they're actually on your side, the jerk will eventually leave the group. You may have to actively facilitate that by not being nice about it when he's not around; it's a fine line to walk if you want to keep your hands clean.

First, you have to accept what could happen if you give him back what he's been giving you. He's not your friend, so don't make the mistake of acting like he's going to change his behavior for the better. Sometimes confrontations are inevitable. If it's between you, your friends, and him, make your choice and be ready for what comes next.

If you're not ready, be prepared to lose your friends. Also be sure to find out why they haven't gotten rid of him already. They may have a more compelling reason for keeping him around than you had previously realized. Never assume; always ask.

If you are ready, then you have nothing to worry about (depending on who you're dealing with, and I'd hope that you can discern the potential for various consequences in this scenario). Weigh the options, make your choice, and allow yourself to think about other things. Your responses will take care of themselves the next time you see him.

Title	How do deal with negative people? Especially when they're friends with you.
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Date	November 18, 2013 12:39 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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