Question about being present and taking action.

puaCurveBall · 2012-07-12T16:07:58+00:00

I feel like you might have an incomplete understanding of being present.

You can take action and be present as long as you aren't living in the future or past (outcome dependence or anxiety over past approaches)

Other forms of meditation include just recognizing stuff around you and the actions you are taking, such as :

I see that cup sitting on the table, and I'm reaching over to take a drink because I feel thirst.... now I'm looking out the window at the car driving by and I'm shifting my weight because I was getting uncomfortable.... etc

AlwaysCorrects · 2012-07-12T21:50:33+00:00

puaCurveBall has it right. Don't try to be present in the way of just being, but be present and AWARE of things around you: the music, the awesome earrings she's wearing that you almost missed, the puns that someone else in the conversation is using, the smell of her perfume ("what is that heavenly scent?"), her posture and yours as well. Are you present enough to realize that you have a drawn face and aren't coming off as friendly? Be aware of yourself, your emotions (if you have some, get rid of the negative ones and amplify the positive ones SUBTLY), your demeanor (especially your posture)? About ten years ago I used to hang out with this group of friends and in this group was a HB8 that I felt I had no chances at getting with. She was gorgeous, nice body, and really cool to hang with and I only felt comfortable talking to her as a friend because even the idea of trying to holler at her made me nervous as shit. Anyway, one day I decided to try an experiment. Until this point I had the quintessential emo fag posture with the slumped shoulders, head down and forward, and generally shitty clothes (not ratty, just not fashionable). So this was right after christmas and I had some new clothes. I heard she was coming over to hang out and thought I'd experiment. I did not plan to hit on her or anything like that, but that night I put on some new clothes and made a CONSCIOUS effort to sit up straight with good posture but to not make a vocal deal out of it. Nobody said anything to me while I was doing it and I kind of thought that it wasn't effective, but that was ok, it was just an experiment, I was a virgin and I expected it to stay like that for awhile.

That night I got a call from my buddy that drove the girls home. He said that the entire way back that HB8 was talking about how good I looked that night and wouldn't shut up about it.

I ended up naked in a hot tub with her a few weeks after that. Just me and her. The point is, the experiment worked. Posture can change people's opinions of you. Be aware of it.

thedarkline · 2012-07-13T00:04:12+00:00

If you want to be present but also take action, think of it not just as being present, but "being potential". That sounds weird, but frame yourself into: I am in a place of potential action, and I act upon the impulses I have in response, or as direct action to my surroundings and feelings.

Mix in the feelings of being aware and open to what's occurring--and actually engaging it.

Title	Question about being present and taking action.
Author	obviouslybise
Upvotes	12
Comments	3
Date	July 12, 2012 3:21 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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