Confidence and a willingness to fight

Chakosa · 2012-05-21T16:17:13+00:00

It's definitely possible to be confident while not wanting to fight. If anything, the willingness to fight shows weakness and insecurity more than anything. I'd think being able to talk your way out of/de-escalate conflict would be seen as pretty alpha.

puaCurveBall · 2012-05-21T16:27:22+00:00

What situation would you need to fight about?

As long as it wouldn't result in a loved one getting hurt, my first reaction is going to be run to security, call the cops, run away.

Fuck anything about getting into a fist fight. I've done a lot of crazy shit in a club and I've never had a punch thrown at me.

ferveo · 2012-05-21T19:37:00+00:00

First a disclaimer: I have a bit of a fetish for violence and I enjoy fighting. As a matter of fact, the only thing I enjoy more than fighting/training is sex. Muay Thai, boxing, traditional martial arts.. love it.

Having said that, street fighting is STUPID. Really, REALLY, REALLY, stupid. What is important is for you to develop your confidence and be comfortable in your own skin. One way to do this is to find a gym and train. You do not have to be the toughest guy in a bar. But you should always be ready to deal with the situation if the need arises. And when it does, your brain is your most effective tool, not your fists. Training your body to fight will allow you to stay clear headed when shit goes down. If you're worried about your size, don't be. Watch a Bruce Lee movie.. He was around 5'8".

Just don't go out and start hitting on other guy's girlfriends or wives.

gingemeleon · 2012-05-21T21:04:24+00:00

The need to fight generally shows that someone isn't in control of a situation; it doesn't make sense to forcefully take something if you already have it, correct? So although I can definitely handle myself in a fight, I always opt to show the person that they're obviously not in control of the situation, which embarrasses them (just make sure to do this part semi-politely, because nothing makes an aggressor angrier than a smart-ass retort).

Having said that, if violence is unavoidable, take this tip my dad always emphasized: There is NO SUCH THING as a fair fight. What he meant was that someone might be bigger, stronger, faster, or more experienced than you, but a cheap shot is the great equalizer. You may lose respect from the five people watching the fight, but you won't end up the next day with stitches or a neck brace. Also, ALWAYS make sure that you get out of there FAST afterwards, and remember this: you never know what you protected yourself against because you never know just how much damage that other guy was going to do to you, a kick in the balls could save your life.

I just went through and looked at the comments below; it's scary how many people in the world are trained in fighting techniques/wrestling/MMA type stuff. People don't fight unless they're confident in their ability to win, you never know who you're fighting.

2012-05-21T19:36:55+00:00

Speaking purely from a non-seduction standpoint, Curveball is totally right. A lot of people--partly because of TV and movies and the like--don't realize how easy it is for someone to get BADLY hurt in a fistfight.

Unless you MUST fight to defend yourself or someone you care about, do whatever you can to escape and/or de-escalate. Even if it is going to ruin your game, the HBs aren't worth the hospital.

BinaryShadow · 2012-05-22T05:33:01+00:00

First rule of martial arts: If you can avoid the fight, do so.

The asshole could have a knife. He could have a gun. He could have six of his pussy friends hiding behind the corner waiting for the signal to come in for backup. So if even if you are winning, you could still lose. Big time.

Like Chakosa said, talking your way out of a fight if pretty damn alpha in my opinion. It makes you look civilized. You are in control. You handle his irrational barbaric anger and easily-detected manipulation techniques with ease (what they are doing is trying to "justify" fighting you. Like you made them do it). Women (those that aren't turned on by blind violence) will appreciate that inner-peace thing you have going.

Hopefully, you're smart enough not to get yourself to that position in the first place. You should be able to pick up cues on people who are itching for a fight. Any bullshit excuse will set them off. Try not to be their target.

All that being said, it never hurts to learn some martial arts. It's good fun, good exercise, and strenghtens the mind-body connection. Plus there's always hot chicks in the class to practice with.

SupALupRT · 2012-05-21T20:23:24+00:00

Bad idea. See Martin, Trayvon. For the record I'm on the side of Zimmerman. Any physical confrontation is too unpredictable. There are a lot of crazy people out there.

jewiger · 2012-05-21T22:34:07+00:00

Dude I feel the same way. There is sometimes when I just want to sock a mutha who steps up to me. I don't go looking for fights but there are sometimes when trouble seems to find me. I'm actually trained in Krav Maga and have a muscular build, so I feel confident in my abilities to defend myself, but even so it rarely escalates to punches. I usually back down since I know as much as I want to lay this guy out, it's really not worth it because in most cases I have a lot more to lose than the other guy (financially, career wise, etc.) You never know if the other dude is carrying a knife, gun, or whatever and just doesn't give a fuck if he goes to jail by seriously hurting or killing you. To that point however, it still burns me personally a bit to back down so I get what you are feeling. Plus most chicks don't dig violence, despite whatever the action movies say.

chikinpickle · 2012-05-22T05:17:08+00:00

If you fight two things will happen. You lose and get your ass kicked or you win and go to jail.

Title	Confidence and a willingness to fight
Author	obviouslybise
Upvotes	13
Comments	18
Date	May 21, 2012 4:02 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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